adoption for monetary gain

[sbrewski]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?california My boyfriend was married for 2 years and 8 months to a woman who was trying to adopt kids for the financial security. Luckily he was only involved with 2 of the adoptions and has to pay child suppoprt for the next 11 years. She does not cooperate with visitation. He was adopted and feels a sense of commitement to them but she makes it very difficult for him to have a relationship with them. She tells them he is a dead beat dad. Their biological grandmother wanted them but cps didn't want her to have them. We let her see them at our house until the adopt mother had it put in the visitation that they couldn't have any contact with her. She is a wonderful person with no criminal history. We only live 6 miles from them. She leaves them with other people all the time. They like coming here and even say they wish they could stay more. She won't let them. They are 8 and 9. She has violated the visitation order and the DA says there is not enough evidence. any ideas on what to do?

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by sbrewski

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?california My boyfriend was married for 2 years and 8 months to a woman who was trying to adopt kids for the financial security. Luckily he was only involved with 2 of the adoptions and has to pay child suppoprt for the next 11 years. She does not cooperate with visitation. He was adopted and feels a sense of commitement to them but she makes it very difficult for him to have a relationship with them. She tells them he is a dead beat dad. Their biological grandmother wanted them but cps didn't want her to have them. We let her see them at our house until the adopt mother had it put in the visitation that they couldn't have any contact with her. She is a wonderful person with no criminal history. We only live 6 miles from them. She leaves them with other people all the time. They like coming here and even say they wish they could stay more. She won't let them. They are 8 and 9. She has violated the visitation order and the DA says there is not enough evidence. any ideas on what to do?

How does adoption cause monetary gain?

The judge has ordered that the biological grandmother is not to have contact with the children. Obviously the judge had a reason for that. It probably has something to do with the CPS case....since CPS didn't want the grandmother to have the children.

In what way has mom violated the visitation order?

[sbrewski]

She gets adoption assistance from the state and she is getting child support from my boyfriend. She tried to adopt 2 others with special needs. She adopted one of them and now gets $2000 per month. The girl is a little slow so she will probably exploit her until she is 21. This woman is 46 and has been married and divorced 6 times. The social worker did not like the bio grandmother. There was no reason that should have kept her from getting her grandchildren. The reports were written to sound bad like she showed up with black around her eyes. It has been a few years since that report. She still has black around her eyes. They didn't like her religion. The social worker had incentives I am sure to get those kids adopted. I read a lot of stuff including 600 pages of discovery that cps said in a home study the home was not a good adoptive home due to her unstable history of relationships. They did it anyways. The system takes these children out of a bad home and sticks them in a worse one. The adopt mother is a control freak and she is afraid the children will tell about what goes on in their house. They tell but there is nothing we can do without putting them in a bad spot. Very frustrating.

[stealth2]

Your boyfriend's not too bright, is he? If he violates the order and allows the grandmother around the kids, he can pretty well count on supervised visitation only.

[TLWE]

[quote=stealth2]Your boyfriend's not too bright, is he? QUOTE]

LOL, I was thinking that AND...he is just as bad as his ex, he was involved with 2 of the adoptions according to the OP.

[sbrewski]

It is not about being bright. He trusted that it was a lifetime commitment to be married and adopt children. He was not in it for the money. He has no intention of breaking the court order.We may try to get it modified.

[sbrewski]

Also it was not the judge but the controlling adopt mother not wanting the grandmother around.

[crisco41]

tennessee
I am also a grand ma that DHS does not exactly like. Don't they have to have a strong reason to not allow a child to go to family? I am trying to get my 4 grands..and if they can just decide they dont like me..so i cant have custody..I am ..how shall i say this?......screwed.

[Tudie]

State: California
County: Shasta
I am the grandmother under discussion concerning the adoption of my two grandchildren. My son and his partner had their parental rights terminated by Shasta County CPS. My son and I attended all the court hearings. The CPS worker violated her position by lying on documents to seccure the adoption. A state fair hearing took place because the workers do not make routine home visits as required by law. I filed several complaints to the state level and also went to the media. I was placed under a gag order. I requested placement with me. I acquired housing and had a home visit. The worker said it would be a favorable report. She never got back to me. I have all the court minute orders. CPS under the color of law and a cloak of secrecy breaks the law to attain whatever they intend to do. The court records state that by law the court must place first with a relative. My theory is that the worker was in collusion with the bio mother concerning placement because the bio mother had a total of nine children that this worker was involved with for placement and should have removed herself from our case. This worker allowed my granddaughter to be placed with a child molester for over a week before CPS took action. I filed complaint after complaint. No doubt I am to big a problem for them. Their stated reason that I did not have them placed with me was that I allowed my son on the visits. It was a lie, unfounded and proven with documents I submitted to the court. I also filed a 12 page affadavit with all the wrongdoing in the system and the judge said she read it then ignored it. What I do know now is that some of these officials are not official at all. This "judge" was a Commissioner. You have a right to be heard by a federal judge. The adoption took place and I was assured visitation by the adopt parents. And it was allowed for about two years. They divorced. I filed a motion for joinder. Denied.. Again a Commissioner. The adopt father tried to allow me visitation. When his ex found out she demanded it not be or else. I obtained a copy of the mediator's reccomendation and made a factual reply to allegations by the adopt mother that I did not get custody of the grandchildrn because CPS deemed me unfit. I filed court documents asking that she prove such allegations and the next time I viewed the file they had sealed the mediator's report. He was bias and made untrue remarks concerning both the adopt father and myself and should have been replaced. I was told that I need to attain a Civil Rights Attorney. I agree but financially am unable to do so.
The adopt parents had their foster parent liscense revoked by the State because the adopt mother's bio son gave alcohol to the other foster kids and got them drunk. This is on court record. But the taxpayers are still subsidizing this home with tax dollars. ANY HELP OUT THERE?