Caydon's Mommy
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Arizona
My situation is kind of different.
Basically, I met my son's biodad when we were both in our "partying" stage (I was still in high school). After two months, I got pregnant and quit everything I was doing to raise my son. Biodad continued to do drugs and party. He also started to become abusive both physically and emotionally.....
When my son was born, I did not put him on the birth certificate because he told me he'd rather party and do drugs then be with us (this whole time, I thought he quit everything but was continuing in secret...). He also wasn't there to sign.
Two years later... My ex (biodad) has legally "abandoned" my son. He hasn't seen him in over a year, never followed through on paying child support or cleaning up his act (I don't have the money for a lawyer), and hasn't called/contacted in over 6 months.
I am currently engaged to a man who my son knows as daddy (he was my best friend during the first year of my son's life) and who wants to legally adopt him. My ex is now in the marines and wants to sign off his rights. I even have a audio recording (he ok'd it) of him saying he thinks the best situation for our son is for Charles (my fiance) to adopt.
My main question is... what now?
Do I need to push myself into further debt to hire an attorney if biodad is alright with terminating?
I know another option is to wait until we are married and simply send biodad the paperwork to have him 1. sign an affidavid (sp?) and 2. sign off his rights so my fiance can adopt.
Would the court let this termination happen any earlier?
I don't want my ex to change his mind... I know my ex wouldn't have the patience or love that my son deserves and I truly fear for my son's safety.
Please let me know what to do. I try to understand the laws in AZ but it is hard!!
Thank you for taking the time to read and respond!
My situation is kind of different.
Basically, I met my son's biodad when we were both in our "partying" stage (I was still in high school). After two months, I got pregnant and quit everything I was doing to raise my son. Biodad continued to do drugs and party. He also started to become abusive both physically and emotionally.....
When my son was born, I did not put him on the birth certificate because he told me he'd rather party and do drugs then be with us (this whole time, I thought he quit everything but was continuing in secret...). He also wasn't there to sign.
Two years later... My ex (biodad) has legally "abandoned" my son. He hasn't seen him in over a year, never followed through on paying child support or cleaning up his act (I don't have the money for a lawyer), and hasn't called/contacted in over 6 months.
I am currently engaged to a man who my son knows as daddy (he was my best friend during the first year of my son's life) and who wants to legally adopt him. My ex is now in the marines and wants to sign off his rights. I even have a audio recording (he ok'd it) of him saying he thinks the best situation for our son is for Charles (my fiance) to adopt.
My main question is... what now?
Do I need to push myself into further debt to hire an attorney if biodad is alright with terminating?
I know another option is to wait until we are married and simply send biodad the paperwork to have him 1. sign an affidavid (sp?) and 2. sign off his rights so my fiance can adopt.
Would the court let this termination happen any earlier?
I don't want my ex to change his mind... I know my ex wouldn't have the patience or love that my son deserves and I truly fear for my son's safety.
Please let me know what to do. I try to understand the laws in AZ but it is hard!!
Thank you for taking the time to read and respond!