Can they adopt my kid with out telling me

Texas

I have a 15 year old that will be 16 in one month. I was not allowed to see here in the beginning, after a few years I found that her mother married and was said to be doing fine. At that time I did not want to disrupt her life between her mother and her (I WAS WRONGE).

When she was 9 her second stepfather adopted her. They asked her if she wanted him to adopt her, she said no. Then they told her that they would have to find me so she said ok. I was never contacted, they told her an investigator looked for me for two year. I was not hiding I lived in the same area were we met, she knew were my mom and dad lived. I had a valued license, paid taxes and owned my on home, but I still was unable to be found they said.

Since the adoption my daughter has had a bad relationship with her mother and stepfather. Then she started to get in trouble with the Police and now she may be facing maybe probations or jail time. So her mom try to find me, it took her only 5 days to find me. Since we hit it off, her mom got mad and now thinks we should not see each other unless she the daughter faces her stepfather which will not talk with her. She continues to be blamed for not try hard enough to make the relationship work with the stepfather.


I know in a year and a month she will be 17 which (if I am not mistaken) she will be able to see me if she wants, but we want to see each now.

Can I contest the Adoption? Or would it take less time just to wait until she is of age and can make her on discussions?

I am just scared she is going to be even more destructive to her self and the ones around her, if we do not act now.

[stealth2]

First question is - when did you find out that she was adopted?

A weekago Saturday.

[stealth2]

If I were in your shoes, I would get myself to a lawyer pronto (preferably one who deals with adoptions) and see what can be done. Expect that you will have to counter their "proof" that they tried to locate you in accordance with the law.

[nextwife]

Possibly, but c'mon! If you weren't involved or interested enough to know in all these years since that she was adopted (it's been almost SEVEN years!) one has to question how interested you really were in being a father. A child has a right to have a legal father, not wait years and years until HE is ready to step up and become a dad.

My daughter, for example, was left by her mom at an orphanage at birth. At age two, no dad had stepped forward to show any interest or claim any rights. In all that time. The court, at two, severed all parental rights and allowed her to be adopted. By two, isn't it long enough time to be without a daddy? Or mommy, in her case. The child should not have to even wait that long. He had his opportunity to step forward and never did. After a certain period of time with nobody claiming any paternal rights, it should be ENOUGH time. After that, a kid should have a right to have a legal father already..

After a certain point, it should be long enough for them to either put up or shut up.

Ok, she will be a legal adult in just a couple years. At that point, she can let you adopt her legally as the father without her mom's ok.