hopefulmommie
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? Oklahoma
Hubby and I have decided to adopt my (1st) cousin's baby. She and birth father are both totally in agreement and involved, willing to help us throught her pregnancy (she's due May 2006).
They previously adopted out a child about a year ago, with no regrets-all went smoothly, so we're told. Sounds great,huh? Well, we're not so sure.
Here's the scenerio:
Hubby and I are unable to have children. Adopting our 1st child is a very new experience for us. We are naive and just starting to research adoption.
My cousin has said she wants to sign the birth certificate in my + hubby's name. I disagree, initially because that child has a right to know who his/her birth parents are. And I wasn't so sure that was even legal?!
Birth parents both said that it is totally legal with witnesses, as well as
signing over their Termination of Parental Rights there in the hospital as well.
And "...in 6 months after signing, adoption will be finalized and boom! you have a baby!"(her words, not mine)...how much of this is true/legal?
This is exactly what was done with the previous adoption that took place a yr ago. (is that an illegal adoption?)
We plan on getting a lawyer, but not even sure if we should just use an Adoption Lawyer,Adoption Agency, or any ol' law firm? Please help...we are so excited, yet so very confused and birth parents don't seem to be helping with "their" info! Thanks so much!
Hubby and I have decided to adopt my (1st) cousin's baby. She and birth father are both totally in agreement and involved, willing to help us throught her pregnancy (she's due May 2006).
They previously adopted out a child about a year ago, with no regrets-all went smoothly, so we're told. Sounds great,huh? Well, we're not so sure.
Here's the scenerio:
Hubby and I are unable to have children. Adopting our 1st child is a very new experience for us. We are naive and just starting to research adoption.
My cousin has said she wants to sign the birth certificate in my + hubby's name. I disagree, initially because that child has a right to know who his/her birth parents are. And I wasn't so sure that was even legal?!
Birth parents both said that it is totally legal with witnesses, as well as
signing over their Termination of Parental Rights there in the hospital as well.
And "...in 6 months after signing, adoption will be finalized and boom! you have a baby!"(her words, not mine)...how much of this is true/legal?
This is exactly what was done with the previous adoption that took place a yr ago. (is that an illegal adoption?)
We plan on getting a lawyer, but not even sure if we should just use an Adoption Lawyer,Adoption Agency, or any ol' law firm? Please help...we are so excited, yet so very confused and birth parents don't seem to be helping with "their" info! Thanks so much!