Could I take my birth father's wife to court?

[ErynSMA]

Originally Posted by search4birthdad

well thank you ....

You're quite welcome.

[momofrose]

Originally Posted by Dogmatique

Eryn, I did read somewhere that a judge could unseal the adoption record if it's for medical reasons. Would that apply to a Step parent adoption as well as the usual adoption?

Adoption is adoption - doesn't matter - step or "usual". But this is not a case of dire need - this is a "just in case" case...seems more like an excuse to contact the birth father - his privacy will be upheld.

[ErynSMA]

Originally Posted by Dogmatique

Eryn, I did read somewhere that a judge could unseal the adoption record if it's for medical reasons. Would that apply to a Step parent adoption as well as the usual adoption?

Do you know the name of the case you are talking about?

They might be able to unseal the adoption record to give out the contact information of a parent if that information is unknown, but I honestly cannot see a judge compelling someone to disclose their medical information to a child.

[ErynSMA]

Originally Posted by momofrose

Adoption is adoption - doesn't matter - step or "usual". But this is not a case of dire need - this is a "just in case" case...seems more like an excuse to contact the birth father - his privacy will be upheld.

I agree with this statement 100%. And even if it was "dire need", I still don't think he'd get the medical records.

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by ErynSMA

I agree with this statement 100%. And even if it was "dire need", I still don't think he'd get the medical records.

(disclaimer: I could very well be hallucinating or otherwise doolally this morning - bear with me )

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I remember seeing something other than the above (which applies to Texas, but I'm really not sure whether Texas sealed adoption records to begin with), but just can't for the life of me remember where.

Either way - OP doesn't have a case.

[Nativity]

There was a case in Florida in 2007 where a Judge wanted to unseal 11 adoption records but it was during a Child Abuse case and the Judge was concerned if the children were ever legally adopted and how. I am not sure if he ever got the ability to do so but, in my opinion, it would seem if it would be difficult to unseal them in a situation like that it would be difficult in a dire medical need and as already stated impossible in a "just want to know" case.

[IsabellaSoriano]

Sorry OP. your dad doesn't WANT to be found. wife or not. if he wanted to he would have hunted you down himself. but he didn't. he's a grown man. hold him accountable for his own actions. or lack thereof.

[rcvela001]

Originally Posted by Wirelessany1

Sorry search, but I don't see that you have any legal recourse here. If you really want to contact your birth father. My only suggestion is that you show up at his house and wait for him to arrive. If you want it that bad, you'll have to personally make it happen.

I agree with this statement. Leave her out of the whole deal.
show up in his face and say "Hi, I think I know you**************."

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by rcvela001

I agree with this statement. Leave her out of the whole deal.
show up in his face and say "Hi, I think I know you**************."

Please tell me you were kidding when you wrote this?

[TheGeekess]

Originally Posted by Dogmatique

Please tell me you were kidding when you wrote this?

That's what my dad did to his father, 25 years after dad's parents divorced. Drove up to his house, knocked on the door and said "I'm your son and your grandchildren are in the car".

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by TheGeekess

That's what my dad did to his father, 25 years after dad's parents divorced. Drove up to his house, knocked on the door and said "I'm your son and your grandchildren are in the car".

I can think of a few diplomatic ways

[nextwife]

My daughter is adopted and we all know and understand that she likely will never have access to any family medical history.

And guess what? Even if her legal dad were her biodadd, she STILL wouldn't have access to his family medical history, as HIS biodad was from a different country and died just before he was born. My husband has absolutely NO information on his biodad's medical history. And he died in war, so even cause of death was not medically helpful.

I know someone else whose parents lost their entire families in WW2 (actually, in the Holocaust) and also has NO family medical history.

It is rather naive to presume that, even if you DID make contact with biodad, he has what you want. Many people, for a variety of reasons do NOT have any knowledge, or have very limited knowledge, of biofamily medical history.

[CourtClerk]

I happen to know people who were NEVER adopted and don't have access to family medical history.

Honestly, if you get a disease, they'll treat it. It's nice to know if Ebola runs in your family, but it's really not necessary. If it's going to happen to you, it's going to happen regardless.

[nextwife]

Originally Posted by CourtClerk

I happen to know people who were NEVER adopted and don't have access to family medical history.

EXACTLY!!!!

So do I.

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by CourtClerk

I happen to know people who were NEVER adopted and don't have access to family medical history.

Honestly, if you get a disease, they'll treat it. It's nice to know if Ebola runs in your family, but it's really not necessary. If it's going to happen to you, it's going to happen regardless.

I can see both sides of this one though - the biological parent has the right to privacy, but I'm not sure that trumps an adopted child's desire (and occasionally need) to be forewarned (commonly to decide whether they wish to risk passing on the gene or decide not to have biological children for fear of passing it down).