concerned21
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? Illinois
My ex wife wants her our 2 children (ages 13 & 9) to take her new husband's name (adoption has never been mentioned). (She also has 2 other children with him.) One child I have not seen in 7 years, the other I do not know at all, this is no choice of mine, but IL law SUCKS! Anyway, I do not know these children only who they used to be, to which I have no problem my ex's new husband adopting them (he seems like a decent dad). I do however pay a hefty amount of child support on a weekly basis. My concern is that my ex wants her cake & eat it to! Why should I let the children change their last names & I still pay child support? Why do they get to look & act like a perfect little family, that I am really supporting! Neither my ex or her new husband work & they are on public aid. If this new husband loves them enought can I request that he adopt them? What are my chances of denying a name change based on the fact that I financially support these 2 children & I feel that it is my decision whether or not they can change their name. Since I no longer know the children & do not see them I do not have a problem with adoption, but how do I bring it up? I want what is in the best interest of the kids, but I am angry that I am supporting these 2 grown adults & their 2 kids along with my 2 kids! How do I approach this situation? Court is April 26th. Thanks!
My ex wife wants her our 2 children (ages 13 & 9) to take her new husband's name (adoption has never been mentioned). (She also has 2 other children with him.) One child I have not seen in 7 years, the other I do not know at all, this is no choice of mine, but IL law SUCKS! Anyway, I do not know these children only who they used to be, to which I have no problem my ex's new husband adopting them (he seems like a decent dad). I do however pay a hefty amount of child support on a weekly basis. My concern is that my ex wants her cake & eat it to! Why should I let the children change their last names & I still pay child support? Why do they get to look & act like a perfect little family, that I am really supporting! Neither my ex or her new husband work & they are on public aid. If this new husband loves them enought can I request that he adopt them? What are my chances of denying a name change based on the fact that I financially support these 2 children & I feel that it is my decision whether or not they can change their name. Since I no longer know the children & do not see them I do not have a problem with adoption, but how do I bring it up? I want what is in the best interest of the kids, but I am angry that I am supporting these 2 grown adults & their 2 kids along with my 2 kids! How do I approach this situation? Court is April 26th. Thanks!