Do I have any choices?

What is the name of your state?

Washington

Here is the situation:

This past summer I started seeing an ex-girlfriend. We found out she was pregnant in Sept. The original plan was to raise the child together. Unfortunately, things did not work out and the relationship ended sometime in Nov. Following our fallout, she had decided that she wished to place the baby for adoption. I was hesitant to agree to an adoption wishing instead to keep the baby. Finally it was agreed that an adoption was in the best interest for the baby. The adoption agency that she had begun working with issued a court order requesting my agreement to relinquish my parental rights and to complete the adoption process. I signed the papers with the idea that it was a mutual agreement between myself and my ex-girlfriend. The adoption was supposed to be in the best interest for the baby. We did not speak to each other again once the papers where signed.

This past week, my ex called and informed me that she had delivered last May and decided to keep the baby. At the same time, she informed me that the court order I had signed could be disregarded. Was it right for those papers to be ignored without my knowledge? She had informed me that the state would be contacting me for child support.

[stealth2]

You have very few choices. Pretty much they're limited to paying support and building a relationship with your child, or paying support and not building a relationship with your child.

But, if I were in your shoes, I'd make damned sure to request a paternity test and not ignore any court papers that come to you.

Well after thinking about things I've decided that I want to be a part of the babies life. I will take your recommendation and request a paternity test. I've run into a little wall though. My ex's parents will not let me talk to her or get her number. I don't know what to do now because I would like to discuss the idea of a paternity test just in case. I don't really have access to the resources to hire an attorney, but it seems like that is something I'm going to have to pursue.

Please contact the court and see if perhaps they will issue an order for the DNA. That's what we had to do with our son's daughter. It's a shame that the other parent and grand parents are being so hateful. Guess they don't realize it's not about them but about one sweet little innocent baby. Children as well as adults can never have enough people in their lives that truly love and cherish them.
Good luck.

[ili]

You are so right. Our little one is 5 yrs. old now and must hear what a
terrible dad he has and anything negative about his dad's family that the
mother and her friend can come up with or lie about. He needs our love
and support. We never talked to him in a negative way about his mom.