Does my ex have parental rights?

[silversa]

What is the name of your state? Colorado

I have a 3 year old son. When he was born, his father refused to sign the paternity papers so his name is not on the birth certificate. His father has a documented history of physical violence towards me. We were married (now divorced) when our child was 18 months old, but my ex still didn't get his name put on the paternity papers. He is not paying child support nor has he helped out financially on a regular basis. There is no legal documentation stating that my ex is his father. I am getting married in 9 months and my fiance would like to adopt my child. Can I request through the courts that my ex revoke any parental rights (if any) that he may have? If so, what steps do I need to take?

[BelizeBreeze]

Originally Posted by silversa

What is the name of your state? Colorado

I have a 3 year old son. When he was born, his father refused to sign the paternity papers so his name is not on the birth certificate. His father has a documented history of physical violence towards me. We were married (now divorced) when our child was 18 months old, but my ex still didn't get his name put on the paternity papers. He is not paying child support nor has he helped out financially on a regular basis. There is no legal documentation stating that my ex is his father. I am getting married in 9 months and my fiance would like to adopt my child. Can I request through the courts that my ex revoke any parental rights (if any) that he may have? If so, what steps do I need to take?

You can request anything you want. However, it's HIGHLY unlikely your ex will agree or that the court will allow such since you and your fiance are not married.

Your child has a father. You don't get to decide if and/or when he gets to exercise those rights.

[nextwife]

Originally Posted by BelizeBreeze

You can request anything you want. However, it's HIGHLY unlikely your ex will agree or that the court will allow such since you and your fiance are not married.

Your child has a father. You don't get to decide if and/or when he gets to exercise those rights.

Not to mention that it is really unfair to a barely married, new spouse to even ask them to assume forever financial responsibility for another guy's child just because you don't like the kind of dad the guy you picked as dad turned out to be. Having a husband adopt your child should NOT be motivated by your desire to shed a bad decision. Give STB hubby a few years to be a stepparent, and to be your husband, before asking him to consider adoption.