What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? New York
My ex-wife approached me about having her husband adopt out 2 minor children. She said that they would never stand in the way of either myself or my parents trying to communicate or have visitation with the children, but when I asked her about incorporating some kind of written and signed agreement into the adoption she said that after speaking to a lawyer that the lawyer said that the court would not address it. It sounds like this situation is getting steered in the way of a handshake agreement which I am not too comfortable with.
In addition I want to know how child support will be affected and hadled thru this whole situation. I lost my job in July of 2010, and CS has been accruing arrears at the prev rate of CS. To that end I have arrears that are built up and when I asked her if she would be willing to waive those arrears, she simply tells me that she doesn't know how that is handled. I feel like with an answer like that that she is dodging my question and this makes me nervous. So my major questions are these:
Will the court recognize and address a written agreement between myself and my ex to maintain visitation and communication for myself and my family?
If the court will not recognize a wrtiien agreement between us, what recourse do I have?
I am under the assumption that once he were to adopt our children NYS CSEB would cease to charge me for child support, but what about the arrears that are accruing based on a job I have not held in 8 months? Can she (as the custodial parent) waive entitlement to those monies?
What recourse can I take with NYS CSEB if she refuses to do so?
Needless to say I am looking for legal advice here because I cannot afford a lawyer, thanks for any help you can give me.
My ex-wife approached me about having her husband adopt out 2 minor children. She said that they would never stand in the way of either myself or my parents trying to communicate or have visitation with the children, but when I asked her about incorporating some kind of written and signed agreement into the adoption she said that after speaking to a lawyer that the lawyer said that the court would not address it. It sounds like this situation is getting steered in the way of a handshake agreement which I am not too comfortable with.
In addition I want to know how child support will be affected and hadled thru this whole situation. I lost my job in July of 2010, and CS has been accruing arrears at the prev rate of CS. To that end I have arrears that are built up and when I asked her if she would be willing to waive those arrears, she simply tells me that she doesn't know how that is handled. I feel like with an answer like that that she is dodging my question and this makes me nervous. So my major questions are these:
Will the court recognize and address a written agreement between myself and my ex to maintain visitation and communication for myself and my family?
If the court will not recognize a wrtiien agreement between us, what recourse do I have?
I am under the assumption that once he were to adopt our children NYS CSEB would cease to charge me for child support, but what about the arrears that are accruing based on a job I have not held in 8 months? Can she (as the custodial parent) waive entitlement to those monies?
What recourse can I take with NYS CSEB if she refuses to do so?
Needless to say I am looking for legal advice here because I cannot afford a lawyer, thanks for any help you can give me.