Father of 3 missing, stepdad wants to adopt

[Eileen4055]

What is the name of your state? New Hampshire
However, the case is in Massachusetts probate courts.
My ex husband hasn't seen his three children in close to a year. He does not contact us, and I cannot get him to talk to me whenever I call him on his cell.
He refuses to provide an address and has been caught working without paying his support.
He hasn't paid a dime in support since August 2005(8 mo. or so ago), and owes close to $8,000.
He has virtually disappeared and has a warrant for failing to appear, also a court appointed constable attempting to apprehend him. A suspended drivers license...
I remarried last summer, and my husband would love to adopt the children. But without cooperation from my ex, can we even proceed with the adoption process? If he hasn't done anything by the time we file, can this go through without him present?
Also, a lawyer told us that my husband could legally adopt the children, while still requiring my ex to pay support? Which makes no sense to me. What would be the point? What's that all about?
Any suggestions or information would be appreciated.

 

[bononos]

What is the name of your state? New Hampshire
However, the case is in Massachusetts probate courts.
My ex husband hasn't seen his three children in close to a year. He does not contact us, and I cannot get him to talk to me whenever I call him on his cell.
He refuses to provide an address and has been caught working without paying his support.
He hasn't paid a dime in support since August 2005(8 mo. or so ago), and owes close to $8,000.
He has virtually disappeared and has a warrant for failing to appear, also a court appointed constable attempting to apprehend him. A suspended drivers license...
I remarried last summer, and my husband would love to adopt the children. But without cooperation from my ex, can we even proceed with the adoption process? If he hasn't done anything by the time we file, can this go through without him present?
Also, a lawyer told us that my husband could legally adopt the children, while still requiring my ex to pay support? Which makes no sense to me. What would be the point? What's that all about?
Any suggestions or information would be appreciated.

Your ex would owe arrears on support after an adoption, meaning the $8000. He would not owe the monthly amount anymore.

 

[Just Blue]

What is the name of your state? New Hampshire
However, the case is in Massachusetts probate courts.
My ex husband hasn't seen his three children in close to a year. He does not contact us, and I cannot get him to talk to me whenever I call him on his cell.
He refuses to provide an address and has been caught working without paying his support.
He hasn't paid a dime in support since August 2005(8 mo. or so ago), and owes close to $8,000.
He has virtually disappeared and has a warrant for failing to appear, also a court appointed constable attempting to apprehend him. A suspended drivers license...
I remarried last summer, and my husband would love to adopt the children. But without cooperation from my ex, can we even proceed with the adoption process? If he hasn't done anything by the time we file, can this go through without him present?
Also, a lawyer told us that my husband could legally adopt the children, while still requiring my ex to pay support? Which makes no sense to me. What would be the point? What's that all about?
Any suggestions or information would be appreciated.

You could forgive the arrears if he will sign off on the adoption..let his family know what you want to do ...he may "pop out of the woodwork"...