Grand-Parent Adoption

Texas/Kansas

We are a military couple and have had Sole Perm Guardianship of our Grand-Daughter since Feb of 2002 and Daughter signed/notairzed "Consent for Adoption". We have not YET been able to file the necessary paperwork with the courts due to the fact Husband (mine) has been deployed to several "hot" zones. NOW my daughter wants her rights back and full custody returned to her. I have had this child since she was 15 mo old now she is 3 1/2. ALSO I had her for a total of 7 months before that - on and off while daughter tried to make up her mind what she wanted. I NEED HELP please. I do have several attorney appts scheduled but would like to know what my rights are with the situation and paperwork already in my posession.
THANK YOU!!!!!!!

[stealth2]

All notarization does is show that the person who showed ID was the person who signed it. The courts go to great lengths to reunite children with their bio-parents. Why do you feel your daughter is unfit?

She has/had stated that she does not want to raise the child - has visited only once - and has various instabilities that I feel are inherently harmful. The child does not know her per se and we (the family) feel that it would be highly detrimental to her. (Abandonment) Since I have had her for more than half her life we fel that she would feel as if we abandoned her.

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

Originally Posted by TXGRANNY

She has/had stated that she does not want to raise the child - has visited only once - and has various instabilities that I feel are inherently harmful. The child does not know her per se and we (the family) feel that it would be highly detrimental to her. (Abandonment) Since I have had her for more than half her life we fel that she would feel as if we abandoned her.

My response:

Perhaps it would be better that you wait to see your attorney to obtain the help you need. It appears, despite your anonymity on this forum, that you cannot bring yourself to be completely candid with us; rather, you appear to only give us sparse information, and the little information that you are able to impart to us amounts to conclusions; e.g., "has various instabilities that I feel are inherently harmful" and others.

We don't have time, nor the patience, to play "20 Questions" with you. So, see your attorney, and be extremely candid with the attorney. Doing that will give you the greatest chance to obtain the custody you desire - - if it's possible at all.

Good luck.

IAAL

TX/KS

I did state that she did abandon the child - not once has she had her even for one night since she turned her over to me back in Feb on 2002....my G-Daughter would not know her if she walked into the room.....she has stated to all family members that she does not want to raise a child that she would have to give up her friends and belongings and wouldn't be able to affford child care or medical if she did take her. From what she has told other family members is that she is now feeling guilty because people in her "office" have made her feel bad because she gave up custody.

I don't feel I am "Playing 20 questions" I am only asking advice. I have given all the information I have. Granted there is not much except for the fact that she gave her to me because she didn't want her at all at that time - even up to Easter of this year she didn't want her.

[BelizeBreeze]

Granted there is not much except for the fact that she gave her to me because she didn't want her at all at that time - even up to Easter of this year she didn't want her.

Oh, there is a LOT more. And one thing you have failed to mention will stop any plans you have to adopt in their tracks. So, if you don't want to give all the facts, do as IAAL suggested and pay the $250 to $400 an hour for a good family law attorney who will throw you out of his/her office for not being truthful.

I thought this forum would be helpful - all I am getting is persons telling me I am not truthful - you don't even know me - you have no clue - I have given this forum the information I am working with at this time - If you feel that there is a LOT more - such as "one thing you have failed to mention will stop any plans you have to adopt in their tracks" then you tell me what I have failed to mention if you already know this.

[stealth2]

You are likely going to find that, if she is now showing an interest in parenting her child, the court is going to allow it and you will not be able to adopt the child. You really do need to speak with a local attorney.

Thank you Stealth

[ili]

This is a problem we have and I try not to give too much info because we
don't know if someone involved might stumble across this site. Your grand-
daughter is in a SAFE place and she is HOME. There are attorneys and
judges who sympathize with this and so document everything you can and
be prepared when you see the attorney. The Lord knows and this child
knows what is best and I, for one, will be praying for you.

KS -
OK - I had an appt with an atty yesterday and it looks VERY VERY good - I gave her all the paperwork I have and all the details - and now I just need the home study done - does anyone here know of a person/group that does this????

Gald I didn't listen to IAAL!!!!!!!!!

[ili]

I'm not sure but believe Child Protective Services would do
a home study. Check with them or your attorney. Good luck.

[smcgarry]

Hey TXGRANNY!
I am in a very similar position as you! Unfortunately, the courts in TX do push, (to the extreme) reunification with biological parents.
The best advice I can give you is what you already know...yes, get legal representation, BUT****************************....
Don't spend ALOT of money on a family attny....it can REALLY add up fast and is something you can more than likely handle yourself!
Is your daughter and the biological father willing to relinquish parental rights and allow you to legally adopt?
If so, go to your local county law library and get the forms and file with the court and do it yourself**************....save time and money and LOTS OF FRUSTRATION!!!!
Good luck to you and yes, I will be praying for you as well!

Thank You Sooooooooo Much !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hi Tx Granny. Hope by now you are finding out some goods news. Sure is hard to be in this situation. We've been working with CPS at least I think we are It's slow go. For the past 10 yrs we've been chasing our grand daughter around the country trying to get custody. Only found out this past Feb. when her mother passed away that CPS has her and never notified her dad or us about any type of hearing. Their regional attorney isn't even sure if she's in a foster home or been adopted Either which way, if it takes every last penny we have, will continue our battle for our precious, cherished and much loved baby. Good luck and will keep you in our prayers.

Jan