grandparent adoption

What is the name of your state? What is the name of your state?Missouri, Humansville, Polk Co. I adopted my 2 grandchildren last October 15th. My daughter and her husband were into drugs. They had a fight and the son-n-law took the youngest grandchild. Next day giving her back but stated he didn't care if they went into foster care. He left, did not know where he was. Daughter took off too, the children have basically lived with me since they were born. My daughter signed her rights away, and my attorney published in the newspaper that I was seeking to adopt. It has been almost 5 yrs since the biodad has seen the children. Welfare tried to find him to pay child support with no luck. But they did find him when he was notified that I had adopted them just 1 month ago. Now he is trying to open the adoption file. Says he was at a certain address all this time. My son has ADHD and depression is on medication for his nerves. He is afraid that the biodad is going to take him away. I promised him that this would not happen. He is 11 yrs old and still wants to sleep with us. He's afraid something will happen to us if hes not there. He witnessed his mother being beaten. Have I lied to him that he will be with me forever? My granddaughter was only 2 1/2 when all this happened so doesn't have too many memories. Only contact was presents at a few Christmas's. No physical contact no phone calls. The biodad contaced several attorneys in my area even my own, now I can't even have him represent me. I have no idea what they told him but he had to go to a larger city to hire a group of lawyers. Now I'm worried, actually I'm scared to death, I can't lose my children to someone like him, or anyone else. Please help me!

[Seanscott]

Adoptions are permanent and irrevocable. After 5 years, biodad cannot just walk back into the picture and "demand" his children. The judge will do whatever is in the best interest of the children. I think it's obvious where those best interests lie - with you!

No support & no visitation for 5 years can be called "abandonment". He will have to explain to the judge why he wasn't around for those 5 years if he is such a loving father. I cannot imagine a judge giving the father's desires any consideration at all.

You do need a good family law attorney. Apparently everything was done legally. I repeat "adoptions are permanent and irrevocable". He's going to have a very difficult (and expensive) time trying to get any of his parental rights returned. Honestly, I don't think he can do it.

Even though everything is in your favor, I know it is a very stressful time. I'm praying for you & YOUR children.

Originally posted by Seanscott
Adoptions are permanent and irrevocable. After 5 years, biodad cannot just walk back into the picture and "demand" his children. The judge will do whatever is in the best interest of the children. I think it's obvious where those best interests lie - with you!

No support & no visitation for 5 years can be called "abandonment". He will have to explain to the judge why he wasn't around for those 5 years if he is such a loving father. I cannot imagine a judge giving the father's desires any consideration at all.

You do need a good family law attorney. Apparently everything was done legally. I repeat "adoptions are permanent and irrevocable". He's going to have a very difficult (and expensive) time trying to get any of his parental rights returned. Honestly, I don't think he can do it.

Even though everything is in your favor, I know it is a very stressful time. I'm praying for you & YOUR children.