West Virginia,
My friend has children who have been in foster care for the past 14 months while she went to treatment to learn how to stay out of abusive situations and got of pain medication. Her last boyfriend went to jail because of the abuse. she is engaged to a man now who is clean. She has been clean of drugs for 6 months but today the judge told her she had no more extensions. she had done too little too late. She has asked me, a friend, to adopt her children. I am told that I have no rights and she has no rights to decide. Many people from the foster families church group want to adopt these children because they have gotten to know them and love them over the past 14 months. the children are 18 months and 28 months. They say I have no kinship because they would not recognize me or know me after 14 months and therefore they will probably go to the families that have gotten to know them in foster care. Why do I have no rights? Why doesn't my friend have rights to choose? Why could these children not have stayed in the area so that they continue to get to know their cousins, friends and our friends church family. that does not seem right to me. They knew when they put them in the foster family that the family would not adopt them. Shouldn't the mother have a say? Can she give legal gaurdianship to me since we cannot prove kinship because they have been gone so long? What should I do to get these children. I would pass all the background checks and am going through the foster care program and am told their are no gaurantees that I will get them. Where do you suggest I turn to get these children. they also belong with their church family and their cousins and grandma. Grandma is unable to adopt them at this point.
Thanks,
Liz
My friend has children who have been in foster care for the past 14 months while she went to treatment to learn how to stay out of abusive situations and got of pain medication. Her last boyfriend went to jail because of the abuse. she is engaged to a man now who is clean. She has been clean of drugs for 6 months but today the judge told her she had no more extensions. she had done too little too late. She has asked me, a friend, to adopt her children. I am told that I have no rights and she has no rights to decide. Many people from the foster families church group want to adopt these children because they have gotten to know them and love them over the past 14 months. the children are 18 months and 28 months. They say I have no kinship because they would not recognize me or know me after 14 months and therefore they will probably go to the families that have gotten to know them in foster care. Why do I have no rights? Why doesn't my friend have rights to choose? Why could these children not have stayed in the area so that they continue to get to know their cousins, friends and our friends church family. that does not seem right to me. They knew when they put them in the foster family that the family would not adopt them. Shouldn't the mother have a say? Can she give legal gaurdianship to me since we cannot prove kinship because they have been gone so long? What should I do to get these children. I would pass all the background checks and am going through the foster care program and am told their are no gaurantees that I will get them. Where do you suggest I turn to get these children. they also belong with their church family and their cousins and grandma. Grandma is unable to adopt them at this point.
Thanks,
Liz