ThunderSAJ
Junior Member
New Jersey
I live in New Jersey and I adopted my son when he was just a few years old. He is now 14 years old and I want to reverse the adoption.
Before you yell at me and make nasty notes and emails to me please hear me out and know why I want to do this.
My wife and I got married in 1988. We separated in 1989 and stayed apart for 3 years. In that time she had another child. A Son… The father took off and abandon them. On Thanksgiving 1993 my wife and I decided to try and make our marriage work. I agreed to forgive and all she did as well. We discussed with the natural father the possibility of me adopting his son and making our family whole. He agreed and on Oct 31 1995 I adopted him and changed his name to mine. The natural father signed over ALL right to me.
All done and legal right?
My wife and I just got divorced this year. Just days ago. I successfully proved in court that she had been having a more then 5 year affair. Can you guess with whom? The natural father of the child I adopted.
As it turns out, my adopted son wants nothing to do with me now and is angry and feels I kept him from knowing his birth father. He and I do not talk anymore and he refers to me as “a father by piece of paper only”.
My now ex-wife will not marry the man, this is so I can keep paying the un-godly amount of child support so they can be the happy family with a second income.
Basically I was used to provide all the needs of a child while the natural father gets off Scott Free! NOW I am still being used. While their relationship now goes on I am left paying child support for a child that technically is not mine and the father is sleeping with his mother. Proven…
Is there anything I can do to get myself out of this situation? A situation that as a loving father I put myself in to begin with. I just don’t want to be their meal ticket anymore while I am left struggling to make ends meet…
Thanks for any help you can provide.
Signed, Sucker…What is the name of your state?
I live in New Jersey and I adopted my son when he was just a few years old. He is now 14 years old and I want to reverse the adoption.
Before you yell at me and make nasty notes and emails to me please hear me out and know why I want to do this.
My wife and I got married in 1988. We separated in 1989 and stayed apart for 3 years. In that time she had another child. A Son… The father took off and abandon them. On Thanksgiving 1993 my wife and I decided to try and make our marriage work. I agreed to forgive and all she did as well. We discussed with the natural father the possibility of me adopting his son and making our family whole. He agreed and on Oct 31 1995 I adopted him and changed his name to mine. The natural father signed over ALL right to me.
All done and legal right?
My wife and I just got divorced this year. Just days ago. I successfully proved in court that she had been having a more then 5 year affair. Can you guess with whom? The natural father of the child I adopted.
As it turns out, my adopted son wants nothing to do with me now and is angry and feels I kept him from knowing his birth father. He and I do not talk anymore and he refers to me as “a father by piece of paper only”.
My now ex-wife will not marry the man, this is so I can keep paying the un-godly amount of child support so they can be the happy family with a second income.
Basically I was used to provide all the needs of a child while the natural father gets off Scott Free! NOW I am still being used. While their relationship now goes on I am left paying child support for a child that technically is not mine and the father is sleeping with his mother. Proven…
Is there anything I can do to get myself out of this situation? A situation that as a loving father I put myself in to begin with. I just don’t want to be their meal ticket anymore while I am left struggling to make ends meet…
Thanks for any help you can provide.
Signed, Sucker…What is the name of your state?