intrafamilt adoption questions

[msdrtrkrcr123]

What is the name of your state? Louisiana ok, i am about to be remarried. we have been together for 2 years now and he has supported my two children from my previous marriage. my ex-husband was court ordered in the restraining order i have against him to pay $721 month. it has now been a year and he has not paid a dime! i was granted sole custody of the children w/ him supervised visits. he has only done one, and that was in jan.06. any others, he has refused. says he is tired of the hassle. he has also been in and out of jail for commiting 2nd degree battery on me in front of the children(long after we separated. was about to drop the kids off to visit him until he did that). and for calling making threats to me(violating the PO) and STILL running from the law on all of it! well anyways, he has had no contact what so ever with the kids since jan 06. i wanted to get some advice on how easy it would be for my finance to adopt them and how soon after we are married can this be done? my fiance totally adores these 2 children! he has done so much for them emotionally and in every other way a real father should be with his children. we are very lucky to have a man that has stepped up to the plate to raise children that he is not even the bio father of.

[Ohiogal]

Musical daddies will not look good> You will need to be in a stable marriage of at least a year -- so your fiance canNOT adopt your kids. Your husband when you have been through at least a marriage would be eligible provided criminal background and all that checks out. The problem is terminating dad's parental rights -- he has not abandoned the children at this juncture. Most states require a year of not contact and if he pays any support that is considered contact. If his income tax is taken that is considered a support payment. Unless dad would consent to your husband adopting the kids you have an uphill battle.

[msdrtrkrcr123]

NO, i am not playing "musical daddys" MY EX HUSBAND BEAT THE HELL OUT OF ME IN FRONT OF THE KIDS(IT ONLY TOOK ONE TIME AND I WAS OUT!) IN THE PAST YEAR, HE HAS ONLY SEEN THE KIDS ONCE AND THAT HAS BEEN 9 MONTHS AGO! AND IN THE PAST YEAR HE HAS NOT PAID A DIME IN CHILD SUPPORT! I WAS INFORMED BY AN ADOPTION LAWYER THAT SINCE THERE HAS BEEN NO CONTACT AND NO SUPPORT FROM MY EXHUSBAND IN OVER SIX MONTHS THE THAT ENABLES ME TO HAVE HIS RIGHTS REVOKED! AND NO SUPPORT HAS COME OUT OF HIS TAXES EITHER, I REFUSE TO LET HIM FILE ON THEM. AND YES, MY FIANCE WILL PASS ANY BACKGROUND CHECK. THIS MAN HAS BEEN ACTIVE DUTY AIR FORCE FOR OVER 8 YRS NOW NEVER BEEN ARRESTED. NEVER BEEN ON DRUGS NEVER "LOST HIS MIND" BUT ANYWAYS, THANKS FOR YOUR INPUT BASICALLY SAYING IM A WHORE AND ONLY LOOKING FOR A DADDY FOR MY CHILDREN. EITHER WAY, MY FIANCE HAS TAKEN CARE OF THESE BABIES AS IF THEY WAS HIS OWN. AND THAT WOULD NOT CHANGE EVEN "IF HE COULD NOT ADOPT THEM.

[Silverplum]

Originally Posted by msdrtrkrcr123

NO, i am not playing "musical daddys" MY EX HUSBAND BEAT THE HELL OUT OF ME IN FRONT OF THE KIDS(IT ONLY TOOK ONE TIME AND I WAS OUT!) IN THE PAST YEAR, HE HAS ONLY SEEN THE KIDS ONCE AND THAT HAS BEEN 9 MONTHS AGO! AND IN THE PAST YEAR HE HAS NOT PAID A DIME IN CHILD SUPPORT! I WAS INFORMED BY AN ADOPTION LAWYER THAT SINCE THERE HAS BEEN NO CONTACT AND NO SUPPORT FROM MY EXHUSBAND IN OVER SIX MONTHS THE THAT ENABLES ME TO HAVE HIS RIGHTS REVOKED! AND NO SUPPORT HAS COME OUT OF HIS TAXES EITHER, I REFUSE TO LET HIM FILE ON THEM. AND YES, MY FIANCE WILL PASS ANY BACKGROUND CHECK. THIS MAN HAS BEEN ACTIVE DUTY AIR FORCE FOR OVER 8 YRS NOW NEVER BEEN ARRESTED. NEVER BEEN ON DRUGS NEVER "LOST HIS MIND" BUT ANYWAYS, THANKS FOR YOUR INPUT BASICALLY SAYING IM A WHORE AND ONLY LOOKING FOR A DADDY FOR MY CHILDREN. EITHER WAY, MY FIANCE HAS TAKEN CARE OF THESE BABIES AS IF THEY WAS HIS OWN. AND THAT WOULD NOT CHANGE EVEN "IF HE COULD NOT ADOPT THEM.

If you want legal help, turn off the SHOUTY CAPS. Tone your attitude waaaay down.

Or, you can go be SHOUTY at a judge in person. Sounds like fun!

[msdrtrkrcr123]

i'm not being "SHOUTY" i hit caps by mistake, oh well. and if this was real legal advice, that would be one thing. but anyone calling themselves an attorney and saying that im playing" musical daddies" well in my book that is not very professional! unless you are for dead beat dads. in my state the"the no contact no support" is 6 months. in case you did not read my original post...my ex husband is on supervised probabtion for the abuse and trying to make my 4 yr old girl shoot me and giving her a gun to do so, "cause he felt bad" spent 6 months in jail. got arrested AGAIN for making threats to come after me in my sleep and then take the kids and give them to a drug friend that could not have any. while out on bond for that, he was arrested again for the same thing. he now has a job until our next trial date. you tell me, does that sond to you a "fit parent"

[stealth2]

If you stopped to think, you'd understand what OG was saying. And she was NOT calling you a whore.

[msdrtrkrcr123]

well, she definantly used a fine choice of words. i have been reading some of her other post replies and apparently she does this quite often. im not "looking"for a daddy to these children. the man i am about to marry has been here for these babies for almost 2 years now. and has offered every kind of support possible to them. but its all good, i have spoke to an adoption lawyer and social services this morning na dwas thold that because my fiance HAS supported them and we have been living together a year now. AND that since my ex husband has not paid support has not had or wanted any contact with the children in over 6 months and given the background of him and trama he has caused for both me and my children. then once me and my fiance are married next month, then there will be no problem getting the adoption done without my exhusbands consent. his rights will be re voked by the court.

[Silverplum]

Originally Posted by msdrtrkrcr123

well, she definantly used a fine choice of words. i have been reading some of her other post replies and apparently she does this quite often. im not "looking"for a daddy to these children. the man i am about to marry has been here for these babies for almost 2 years now. and has offered every kind of support possible to them. but its all good, i have spoke to an adoption lawyer and social services this morning na dwas thold that because my fiance HAS supported them and we have been living together a year now. AND that since my ex husband has not paid support has not had or wanted any contact with the children in over 6 months and given the background of him and trama he has caused for both me and my children. then once me and my fiance are married next month, then there will be no problem getting the adoption done without my exhusbands consent. his rights will be re voked by the court.

Then there you go. Good luck.