my daughter

What is the name of your state? Miss What happens to the birth parents birth certificate to the child they adopted out is it still legal,

[stephenk]

first, stop posting new threads for each question you post. just hit the "post reply" button on your original post.

Second, provide some details. No one here knows you or your situation. just asking a question without context is not going to get you any meaningful response.

I am 45 years old and my husband and i have adopted 2 great children our daurghter was 8 weeks old when we first saw her it took a year to complete the adoption the birth mother didnt know who was the father of 2 men so we had to get both men,s signitures and that took awhile now it has been 11 years and she just shows up and shows us the child s birth certificate from when she gave birth to her it does not have the names we gave the child on it but the birth parent says it shows she is her child should i go to our lawyer or is she just trying to start a scene we have not told the child she was adopted as we were told it was a closed adoption

[nextwife]

Questions:

Bio mother shows up, speaks to your daughter without your permission? SHOWS her a BC? BC is different than the one presented to the court for the adoption? AND BM further claims to have commited fraud by not naming the actual BF when the adoption was done?

ON top of this, your child has gotten to this age without being informed that she was adopted? ?


Goodness. First, I'd consider calling a lawyer. THis is nothing to fool around with. Get a restraining order and keep her away. Have the lawyer write a letter to her clearly explaining that the previous BC is no longer the legal BC, it is now sealed, and the current BC is the legal one. The atty may have other thoughts. The main thing to get the BM to understand is that she appears to now be claiming to have lied under oath, if in fact she is now claiming the BF is NOT either of the men SHE CLAIMED could have been.

Additionally, he needs to explain that she forfieted her legal rights and the OLD BC only shows that she is the biomom, not the legal mom. as established in court. She is not her "MOM". She is the BM, YOU are her mom now. The original BC has nothing to do with who is now legal parents.

AS to not making your child aware of adoption, and that there is nothing wrong about it, nothing to be ashamed of, that it is another way to make a family, sounds like that time has passed. I pray that this is not how your daughter first found out about her adoption. Sorry, but I do not understand how we can expect our children to accept that there is nothing wrong with being adopted, and no shame involved, if we as parents act as though it IS something that should be kept secret and can't be talked about. If they know from the beginning of conciousness, it is never a surprise and is something they merely take for granted, such as religion or eye color. And that way, one can control what your child is told and by whom as they learn about their adoption.

For pete's sake, TALK to your child about her adoption. IT is NOT something that should be dropped on her later in life!

I would really make a stink about HOW BM discovered where you live.

Now as to her claim that the BF is DIFFERENT than she stated, here is language from a summary of MS adoption law:

[url]http://www.adoptionsolutions.com/general/state%20laws/ms_law.htm[/url]

Mississippi Adoption Statute Summary

Mississippi Code Annotated Sections 93-17-1 to 93-17-223 (1998)

Who Can Adopt?
Any adult who has resided in the State for at least 90 days prior to the filing of the petition may adopt. A husband and wife must jointly adopt.

Who Can Be Adopted?
Any person can be adopted.

Consent to Adoption
Written consent is required of the following people:

1.
both natural parents, or parent, if only one parent;

2.
if the parents are dead, then any two adult relatives within the third
degree of the child;

3.
the guardian ad litem of an abandoned child;

4.
any person who has physical custody, or to whom custody has been awarded through the court;

5.
the agent of the county department of public welfare who has placed the child; and

6.
the adoptee who is over 14 years of age.

If the adoptee is born out of wedlock, the father shall not be deemed to be a parent and no reference shall be made to him.

So, if she was NOT married, it sounds irrelevant WHO the real BF is at this point, as it does not appear that his consent is required.