ny newlywed has adoption question

[lonelyandsad]

i just got married sun.in new york state,how long will we have to be married before we could adopt my younger siblings ages 5-14?any info would be great.thanks

[howamidoing]

Originally Posted by lonelyandsad

i just got married sun.in new york state,how long will we have to be married before we could adopt my younger siblings ages 5-14?any info would be great.thanks

First of all how old are you? did you get married just to adopt these children?There are a lot of factors in adoption. Where are the parents of these children? Why do you want to adopt them? Do youlive in New York? Do the children live in New York? We need much more information.
New York Parties to Adoption


WHO MAY ADOPT: Dom. Rel. § 110
• An adult unmarried person
• An adult husband and wife together.

WHO MAY BE ADOPTED: Dom. Rel. § 110
• Any person.

WHO MAY PLACE A CHILD: Soc. Serv. § 374
• An authorized agency
• A parent
• A legal guardian
• A relative within the second degree.

CONSENT OF ADOPTEE: Dom. Rel. Law § 111
• A child 14 years or older must consent to the adoption unless the court dispenses with consent.

WHEN PARENTAL CONSENT NOT NEEDED: Dom. Rel. § 111
The parent:
• Has failed to visit or contact the child for 6 months.
• Has surrendered the child to an agency for adoption.
• Shows intent to forego rights.
• Whose child has a court appointed guardian.
• Is unable to care for the child due to mental illness.


You can find out a lot of information here:
[url]http://new-york.adoption.com/[/url]

[nextwife]

Asking a new, young husband to assume lifetime financial responsibilty for several young siblings is a bit much, so soon. Why don't you give the marriage some time to be tested before making him responsible to to continue to support your siblings if your marriage should fail at some point ? I'm not saying it will, but I've seen many posts by young men who adopted their wives young sibs or kids, only to end up alone paying a lot of CS for kids that they never get to see.

[lonelyandsad]

oops sorry.our parents are dead,im their legal guardian,im 24 years old,no,we didnt get married just to adopt the kids,my husband and i love them very much,we want to be their mom and dad,yes,we all live in new york.we'll probaly wait a year or so,like next wife suggested,to make sure the marriage will work.they call us mom and dad,and we want to make it legal.

[howamidoing]

Originally Posted by lonelyandsad

oops sorry.our parents are dead,im their legal guardian,im 24 years old,no,we didnt get married just to adopt the kids,my husband and i love them very much,we want to be their mom and dad,yes,we all live in new york.we'll probaly wait a year or so,like next wife suggested,to make sure the marriage will work.they call us mom and dad,and we want to make it legal.

Best of luck to you

[haiku]

what happened to all the OTHER kids?..

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[MandyD]

She either has a black cloud the size of Texas hanging over her and anyone she comes in contact with, or she has a Texas sized imagination.

[howamidoing]

Originally Posted by MandyD

She either has a black cloud the size of Texas hanging over her and anyone she comes in contact with, or she has a Texas sized imagination.

I was just thinking about that, how many people died? How many kids are there? And if her fiance was murdered, who did she just marry? If there are so many people around how can she be lonely? I got the sad part.....all the deaths...Geez if this is real, Man I apologize but I cant see it.