What is the name of your state? Pennsylvania
Hi, I am Lilly. I am 32 years old and 12 years ago, I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. The people who I chose for adoption were aquaintences to my mom and myself. It was agreed to be an open adoption, and the adoptive mother and I agreed that I may have contact with them any time I wished. She had always made good on that agreement, and we would have dinner all together pretty much once a year. I got holiday pictures, birthday pictures and school pictures every year. The mother has since passed away, and I have made several attemptes to the adoptive father to get together or at least get a school picture. Nothing has come of it, not even a call back. He started dating someone new 3 months (if not sooner) after "Janet" passed away.
At the time of the adoption, I was advised by their attorny to put father unknown (even though he was by no means unknown), and forced to put an ad in a California State newspaper that I was on vacation in California got pregnant and did not know anything about the biological father. This way the wasn't anyone to contest the adoption.
Since all of this, I am now a mother of 2 girls (ages 2 & 3). I know how I feel about them, and I feel the same exact way about my oldest!!! I guess my biggest concern is that my 12 year old may need someone in her life that she can talk to and relate with. She has always been aware that she was adopted, and does recognize me as a friend. I feel that the adoptive dad is fully being very selfish with his feelings and this new woman, and i know that this little girl has to be going through a great deal of pain. I just want to see her and somehow let her know that I am here for her as her friend and biological mother. Any responses will be greatly reguarded!!!
Heartache the size of the universe!
Hi, I am Lilly. I am 32 years old and 12 years ago, I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. The people who I chose for adoption were aquaintences to my mom and myself. It was agreed to be an open adoption, and the adoptive mother and I agreed that I may have contact with them any time I wished. She had always made good on that agreement, and we would have dinner all together pretty much once a year. I got holiday pictures, birthday pictures and school pictures every year. The mother has since passed away, and I have made several attemptes to the adoptive father to get together or at least get a school picture. Nothing has come of it, not even a call back. He started dating someone new 3 months (if not sooner) after "Janet" passed away.
At the time of the adoption, I was advised by their attorny to put father unknown (even though he was by no means unknown), and forced to put an ad in a California State newspaper that I was on vacation in California got pregnant and did not know anything about the biological father. This way the wasn't anyone to contest the adoption.
Since all of this, I am now a mother of 2 girls (ages 2 & 3). I know how I feel about them, and I feel the same exact way about my oldest!!! I guess my biggest concern is that my 12 year old may need someone in her life that she can talk to and relate with. She has always been aware that she was adopted, and does recognize me as a friend. I feel that the adoptive dad is fully being very selfish with his feelings and this new woman, and i know that this little girl has to be going through a great deal of pain. I just want to see her and somehow let her know that I am here for her as her friend and biological mother. Any responses will be greatly reguarded!!!
Heartache the size of the universe!
