What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California
I'm asking this community for help with options in dealing with a terrible birth parent. My girlfriend's daughter is an amazing girl, 9 years old, and we're becoming a family with marriage in our future. However, the daughter's birth father is, from our point of view, unfit to be a parent. Here's a brief window into his relationship with his daughter: He's scheduled to see his daughter every other weekend and more often than not leaves her waiting hours on end for him. His last weekend we made plans and went out of town. Unfortunately he decided to leave the state and not inform us he wouldn't be picking up his daughter from school. Our poor little girl was left at the school for hours and was eventually picked up by the police while we had to scramble to find someone to get her. After that he disappeared for two weeks, not answering phone text or email. I believe it's been a month since he last communicated with his daughter who's been hurting this whole time. When they are together it's a very unhealthy relationship. He constantly attacks her self-esteem and abuses her emotionally. She has serious abandonment, trust, and men issues because of this guy. I've slowly been regaining her trust in both men and adults, but every two weeks it's very painful for all involved. He has a history of disappearing for months at a time and shows no real concern for his daughter's well-being. He simply likes the title of "father" for what I can only surmise as narcissistic reasons.
My girlfriend tried to have her ex-husband adopt her daughter and the birth father refused so it's unlikely he'll cooperate this time. He does have an incentive as he's behind $50k+ in child support. But during the last adoption petition he owed $25k and still refused so I doubt his back child support will affect his decision. My question is, do we have any forms of recourse revoking the birth father's parental rights and getting this daughter adopted? He's emotionally abusive to his daughter, which is plain as day to everyone who's involved. I'm sure it wouldn't be hard to get a psychiatrist or therapist to back up our claims that his relationship is unhealthy and hurting his daughter. Unfortunately, I've never heard of a court revoking parental rights because of only emotional abuse - there needs to be something physical, which there isn't. Is there anything we can do? We really want to get married and the mother and daughter want to forget this guy and move on with their lives.
I'm asking this community for help with options in dealing with a terrible birth parent. My girlfriend's daughter is an amazing girl, 9 years old, and we're becoming a family with marriage in our future. However, the daughter's birth father is, from our point of view, unfit to be a parent. Here's a brief window into his relationship with his daughter: He's scheduled to see his daughter every other weekend and more often than not leaves her waiting hours on end for him. His last weekend we made plans and went out of town. Unfortunately he decided to leave the state and not inform us he wouldn't be picking up his daughter from school. Our poor little girl was left at the school for hours and was eventually picked up by the police while we had to scramble to find someone to get her. After that he disappeared for two weeks, not answering phone text or email. I believe it's been a month since he last communicated with his daughter who's been hurting this whole time. When they are together it's a very unhealthy relationship. He constantly attacks her self-esteem and abuses her emotionally. She has serious abandonment, trust, and men issues because of this guy. I've slowly been regaining her trust in both men and adults, but every two weeks it's very painful for all involved. He has a history of disappearing for months at a time and shows no real concern for his daughter's well-being. He simply likes the title of "father" for what I can only surmise as narcissistic reasons.
My girlfriend tried to have her ex-husband adopt her daughter and the birth father refused so it's unlikely he'll cooperate this time. He does have an incentive as he's behind $50k+ in child support. But during the last adoption petition he owed $25k and still refused so I doubt his back child support will affect his decision. My question is, do we have any forms of recourse revoking the birth father's parental rights and getting this daughter adopted? He's emotionally abusive to his daughter, which is plain as day to everyone who's involved. I'm sure it wouldn't be hard to get a psychiatrist or therapist to back up our claims that his relationship is unhealthy and hurting his daughter. Unfortunately, I've never heard of a court revoking parental rights because of only emotional abuse - there needs to be something physical, which there isn't. Is there anything we can do? We really want to get married and the mother and daughter want to forget this guy and move on with their lives.