Please In need od Help

[flaka526]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
I wanted to know how can i have my Fiancee adopt my son ?
He has been raising him since he was 4 months old and he is now almost 5 .His Biological father does pay child support but has not see him in almost 3 yrs since we had the paternity test done on sept 15,2006( he was the one who asked after he signed the paperwork at the hospital ). I have asked him to partake in his life and upbringing . I have also advised him when he has been admitted in the hospital on numerous occasions for asthma, kidney infections and also when he almost died and was in the PICU for 7 days and he never showed up i have tried various methods ( holidays, birthdays and just reg visits). Taking him to his grandmothers house ,offering to take him to his job and also having a middle man take him so he can know his son he has always refused he has stated no on many occasions . I have also proof from the numerous emails of me asking him and his response was always no.
I wanted to know is that grounds for his rights to stripped?
and can my fiancee (once we are married ) (we already have filed papers stating that we are domestic partners )adopt him legally as his own since that is his dad in his eyes and to my husband that is his son.
We will be married in a few months just in case you were wondering
I just want some answers
will his job also affect the outcome of the case?
He is currently a member of the FDNY
Help me please from NYC

[TheGeekess]

WHAT US STATE?

Dad is doing everything he's ordered to do. He's paying child support. That is considered contact by most states. So, no, unless Dad consents to a step-parent adoption, I can't see it happening (and this is generic, without knowing your state can't be more specific). Let's throw this in, too: You'd best be married for some length of time to show that the relationship between you and spouse is stable before you even approach Dad.