Question post adoption

[CCMominVA]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Virginia

Hello all,

My husband adopted our son a while back. We used a lawyer, ex consented to the adoption. Adoption was final in Aug. 2008.

Ex husband emailed me today demanding the adoption paperwork. Am I required to send it to him, or should I not respond. My only guess is he's upset that his wages are still being garnished for past support in excess of $20,000.

Any thoughts?

 

[janM]

My only guess is he's upset that his wages are still being garnished for past support in excess of $20,000.

Any thoughts?

I think you may be right. He may have thought all that would disappear along with the future support.

 

[nextwife]

Is he also being garnished for ongoing support? Has CSE been notified the child was adopted and when?

 

[CCMominVA]

Is he also being garnished for ongoing support? Has CSE been notified the child was adopted and when?

CSE was notified by fax from me right after I got the adoption paperwork. Further collection has been stopped, but I did not forgive the past arrears. I hope this helps! His wages were being garnished twice a month, but I noticed the last 2 months it has been taken just once a month.

 

[Isis1]

check with your civil procedures, but at some point in time he should have received a copy. i'd send him the copy. like was said before he may have thought the arrears would disappear too.

 

[CCMominVA]

I guess.....

I just never have a good feeling when he does certain things. After we divorced, he took credit cards out in my name, and just last year when I went to register a new car (even though we have been divorced for 10 years), they had my address listed as his home address - a location I never lived at. I just am uncomfortable sending him a document that has so much information about my husband now.

I will try to find out if I am required to.

 

[Isis1]

I just never have a good feeling when he does certain things. After we divorced, he took credit cards out in my name, and just last year when I went to register a new car (even though we have been divorced for 10 years), they had my address listed as his home address - a location I never lived at. I just am uncomfortable sending him a document that has so much information about my husband now.

I will try to find out if I am required to.

sounds like you need to check your credit. and put a block on it. as well as that of your child's and your husband.

 

[LdiJ]

I just never have a good feeling when he does certain things. After we divorced, he took credit cards out in my name, and just last year when I went to register a new car (even though we have been divorced for 10 years), they had my address listed as his home address - a location I never lived at. I just am uncomfortable sending him a document that has so much information about my husband now.

I will try to find out if I am required to.

I am not sure that you are required to provide him a copy nor I am certain that he ever should have received a copy. He should have received a copy of his termination of parental rights, but that is all.

I would check with a local attorney and get his/her take on it.

I also agree that you should be checking everyone's credit reports.

 

[CCMominVA]

Thank you

Considering he never jumped through any hoops to take care of his firstborn, I won't jump through any hoops to "help" him in whatever it is he is looking for.

I check all of our credit reports thoroughly after finding out what he did to me. That was something that took a lot to fight, but fortunately, all of what he did then has been undone or resolved. So last year when his address popped up on my records, I was so shocked.

Thank you!

 

[CCMominVA]

Good grief

Now the jerk is trying to "friend" me on facebook.