FedupMomma
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What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? PA
I will try stick to only facts and not give any personal opinions as I know they don’t hold water in court. All dates are Approximate if not given in exact date format. I apologize for this being so long and to think I cut out a lot of things.
DH and I married 7/5/02
I came to the marriage with one child (father deceased) Dh came to marriage with one child. (Child in question).
During the time of the marriage I kept trying to get my husband to see things where not right with his son.
He has had full physical custody of the child since he was 6 months old. No court order CS, He told BM he would not go for it if she let him have custody. BM visitation was 6 days.
2003. Her visitation put on temp. hold because of abuse allegations by SM and BF. Child came home bruised up pretty badly saying mom hit him with a piece of wood. Child at this time is 3. CYS talk to SS, agree something happened but because of problems in speech that can not understand him properly and the case is denied with out satisfactory finding, but it is marked in the report that something happened at BM house. This goes on for the next year with many court appearances and visitation being reduced to 4 hours supervised with BM’s mother (where the abuse took place) and father gaining full physical and full primary custody. SM has to get a restraining order out again BM because she has come to the house on many occasions threatening to kill SM and baby that SM was carrying. Police witness this charges filed she is fined and put on probation.
BM has spent time in jail on numerous counts. 1 for theft of atm card, check book stolen from her grandfather. 2. Lack of paying fines. 3. Not doing her community service. 4. Violation of probation.
Fast forward to present (leaving some repetitive stuff out like more abuse). Child has since shown sexual behavior at the age of 6. He has seen countless psychiatrist and psychotherapists . All claim child was traumatized with mental, sexual and physical abuse. All have diagnosed him with a stress disorder. He also has severe learning disabilities and is truly a handful his behavior is horrible. He has been undergoing treatment for all the above for the past 2 1/2 years. All state visitation with mother should be stopped. This even came from one of the psychiatrists the court appoints for children. Of course she wasnt court appointed for us, since SS had already been seeing her.
BM is in arrears with child support at almost 7 thousand dollars. No payments from her since Dec. 17th 0f 2004. Went domestic relations over this. They stated she was in contempt for the 2nd time. Put the order in for court and recommendation for her to serve jail time. Judge signed and approved this. Courts are backed up still waiting for hearing. Once hearing starts she will have 7 days to pay ¾ of the arrears if she doesn’t then she will serve the jail time. BM refuses to work. Very capable of working, just does not want too.
There has been no contact now with BM since Dec. 25th of 2005. She just stopped calling and stopped meeting at the designated place for her and her mother to pick son up for her 4 hour visit.
We do have a decent attorney but over the past few years the money we have spent in court is starting to hurt us. We have 3 kids total. I would love to be able to adopt my SS I have raised him since he was 3.
Are these good reasons and do you think we have a good chance of getting her rights terminated. Or should we hold our breaths and pray and let more time pass to which she has had no contact.
She has offered many times to sign over her rights if we pay her 25 thousand dollars (we don’t have this). She has also at times offered reqesting no money, but then her mom told her she would throw her out and she would be homeless. She would have signed him over already if it wasn’t for the mother. (Who also has no contact with him)
Thank you in advance for getting reading far in all of this.
I will try stick to only facts and not give any personal opinions as I know they don’t hold water in court. All dates are Approximate if not given in exact date format. I apologize for this being so long and to think I cut out a lot of things.
DH and I married 7/5/02
I came to the marriage with one child (father deceased) Dh came to marriage with one child. (Child in question).
During the time of the marriage I kept trying to get my husband to see things where not right with his son.
He has had full physical custody of the child since he was 6 months old. No court order CS, He told BM he would not go for it if she let him have custody. BM visitation was 6 days.
2003. Her visitation put on temp. hold because of abuse allegations by SM and BF. Child came home bruised up pretty badly saying mom hit him with a piece of wood. Child at this time is 3. CYS talk to SS, agree something happened but because of problems in speech that can not understand him properly and the case is denied with out satisfactory finding, but it is marked in the report that something happened at BM house. This goes on for the next year with many court appearances and visitation being reduced to 4 hours supervised with BM’s mother (where the abuse took place) and father gaining full physical and full primary custody. SM has to get a restraining order out again BM because she has come to the house on many occasions threatening to kill SM and baby that SM was carrying. Police witness this charges filed she is fined and put on probation.
BM has spent time in jail on numerous counts. 1 for theft of atm card, check book stolen from her grandfather. 2. Lack of paying fines. 3. Not doing her community service. 4. Violation of probation.
Fast forward to present (leaving some repetitive stuff out like more abuse). Child has since shown sexual behavior at the age of 6. He has seen countless psychiatrist and psychotherapists . All claim child was traumatized with mental, sexual and physical abuse. All have diagnosed him with a stress disorder. He also has severe learning disabilities and is truly a handful his behavior is horrible. He has been undergoing treatment for all the above for the past 2 1/2 years. All state visitation with mother should be stopped. This even came from one of the psychiatrists the court appoints for children. Of course she wasnt court appointed for us, since SS had already been seeing her.
BM is in arrears with child support at almost 7 thousand dollars. No payments from her since Dec. 17th 0f 2004. Went domestic relations over this. They stated she was in contempt for the 2nd time. Put the order in for court and recommendation for her to serve jail time. Judge signed and approved this. Courts are backed up still waiting for hearing. Once hearing starts she will have 7 days to pay ¾ of the arrears if she doesn’t then she will serve the jail time. BM refuses to work. Very capable of working, just does not want too.
There has been no contact now with BM since Dec. 25th of 2005. She just stopped calling and stopped meeting at the designated place for her and her mother to pick son up for her 4 hour visit.
We do have a decent attorney but over the past few years the money we have spent in court is starting to hurt us. We have 3 kids total. I would love to be able to adopt my SS I have raised him since he was 3.
Are these good reasons and do you think we have a good chance of getting her rights terminated. Or should we hold our breaths and pray and let more time pass to which she has had no contact.
She has offered many times to sign over her rights if we pay her 25 thousand dollars (we don’t have this). She has also at times offered reqesting no money, but then her mom told her she would throw her out and she would be homeless. She would have signed him over already if it wasn’t for the mother. (Who also has no contact with him)
Thank you in advance for getting reading far in all of this.