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My Step daughter is 16 yrs old and has been pleading with me and her mother about me adopting her or at least getting her a name change. the only problem is obviously like most situations the other parent, her father. Although my step daughter hasn't spoken to him in over a year and a half, because he was mentally and physically abusive towards her and her mom.
her father has50/50 legal custody of my step daughter and her younger siblings. she has asked time and time again, what can she do to change her name or for me to adopt her? we really haven't found any answers or solutions. please if anyone has any advise it is greatly appreciated
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- 07-07-2009, 02:49 PM #1
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- 07-07-2009, 04:31 PM #2
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If Dad has a history of physical and mental abuse to both Mom and child, how did he manage to retain 50/50 legal custody? Was the abuse ever documented or prosecuted?
Originally Posted by justalilbit08 
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- 07-07-2009, 04:35 PM #3
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Hold up a second.
Are you stepdad, Mom or what?
Your previous posts are somewhat..ambiguous.
ETA: Great googly moogly I did not anticipate having to do a Sherlock Holmes today. Now, in another post you write:
Please answer:I have a court order right now that shows i receive my beautiful children every other weekend and for most of the holidays. there is a vacation stipulation in there as well that me and my soon to be ex agreed to months back.
Are you married?
If so - to whom?! What's the marital status of the woman you're living with now? She's the mother of the teen who wants to change last names, yes?
Please clarify.Last edited by Proserpina; 07-07-2009 at 04:43 PM.
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- 07-07-2009, 04:39 PM #4
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She can wait until she is 18 and change her name as an adult to whatever she wants with permission from no one.
Parents should remember 3 things: Love your kids more than you hate your ex (or soon to be ex); when you have children the relationship with the other parent is until death; your children determine what type of nursing home you end up in.
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- 07-07-2009, 04:52 PM #5
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Darnit! I was gonna say that! Originally Posted by Ohiogal
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- 07-07-2009, 07:26 PM #6
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I am really confused. How can you have a 3 and 5 year old with someone who is not yet your ex wife, yet have a 16 year old stepdaughter that wants you to adopt her? Originally Posted by justalilbit08 in vino veritas
- 07-07-2009, 07:29 PM #7
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Phew...I thought for a minute it was just me who was baffled by this one! Originally Posted by LdiJ
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- 07-07-2009, 08:31 PM #8
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Well... you know... I typed quicker. Originally Posted by Zigner Parents should remember 3 things: Love your kids more than you hate your ex (or soon to be ex); when you have children the relationship with the other parent is until death; your children determine what type of nursing home you end up in.
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- 07-07-2009, 08:32 PM #9
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He is a candidate for the reality version of Big Love? Originally Posted by LdiJ 
Parents should remember 3 things: Love your kids more than you hate your ex (or soon to be ex); when you have children the relationship with the other parent is until death; your children determine what type of nursing home you end up in.
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- 07-07-2009, 08:32 PM #10
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I totally missed it all. Originally Posted by Dogmatique Parents should remember 3 things: Love your kids more than you hate your ex (or soon to be ex); when you have children the relationship with the other parent is until death; your children determine what type of nursing home you end up in.
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- 07-07-2009, 09:44 PM #11
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Dang OG...you owe me a keyboard...I am moping up Chardonay as I speak...LOL. Originally Posted by Ohiogal He is a candidate for the reality version of Big Love?in vino veritas
- 07-07-2009, 10:12 PM #12
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Pass me the tissues when you're done, L - my poor keyboard is drowning in a sea of Mike's Hard Lemonade. Originally Posted by LdiJ
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- 07-08-2009, 08:52 AM #13
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Dang, sounds like I should be logging in at night, when the adult beverages are being served. Maybe I should top off my coffee???
Had to jump in here - my stepdaughter told me, my husband, my son, and her grandma last week "Did you know you can change your name for $100?" Followed by "Mom said I can choose between Doe and Deer." (Meaning, my husband's last name or his ex-wife's hubby name) ACK!!!
SO, OP, back off. OG is right. And she seems to be in a good mood today, so leave her alone!
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