step parent adoption

we moved to ormond beach florida from michigan and my husband and his ex moved the divorce from michigan to florida. during this transistion his ex had asked that my husband sign his rights over and allow her new husband to adopt. after a few months of visition, things just got worse. he made the hard decision to sign the adoption papers. now she will not fle the papers until the last support payment is sent to her, well they are directly taken out of his paychecks then sent to her through the state. we are trying to find out how we can make her do her part in this instead of paying her every week for a son that my husband cannot even speak to. he loves his son very much, however, we have done everything that she has asked with nothing completed on her end. any help in this matter would be greatly appreciated. thanks...stressed out!

[kat1963]

Well, she hasn't file the papers, I'd send her a certified letter "Intent on Visitation"...send it 3 ways, regular, certified w/reciept and priority w/delivery confirmation (that you can check on line). Remind her that if she refuses, she's in contempt of court order (since I'm taking it there is no court order preventing such & she hasn't bothered to file the adoption papers). If she refuses, send a "Denial of Visitation" letter in the same manner. Hopefully this will get the ball rolling. She's playing a game, not allowing visitation but still collecting support. Your husband made his decision, which I'm sure was not an easy one. To be drawing this out and sucking out the bucks is just plain wrong. Call her hand on it...Tell her that since such time as elapsed it's clear that both her and her husband have changed their minds and visitation will resume. If there is distance involved mention that fact and you'll be going for a modification of visitation due to travel. I don't know of anyway to force her hand but the above...perhaps someone else knows better then I.

KAT