step parent adoption after 11 yrs of marriage

[rhonda2006]

What is the name of your state? ky

i am a mother of a 11 yr. old son. married for 10 yrs. my husband would love to adopt his step son. the bio father has never supported him(by the court oreder) has never wanted to see him and he knows where i live and my phone number..my question is with out knowing where the bio father is how do i go about getting his rights terminated..and get the adoption going

[Ohiogal]

You need to speak to an attorney as adoption is not a DIY project. But since biodad has a legal court order establishing him as the father and you have a solid marriage then you have the important pieces of the puzzle.

[saramugsy]

All states have to enforce child support from another state now and they are getting really good at finding these men and jailing them and making them pay up. I am sure your ex is getting nervous. Find him yourself and tell him your lawyer will draw up and agreement that you will forgive all past child support if he signs adoption papers. You would be surprised how many men do this. If you have the state find him this will not be possible. I am not a lawyer.

[ceara19]

Originally Posted by saramugsy

All states have to enforce child support from another state now and they are getting really good at finding these men and jailing them and making them pay up. I am sure your ex is getting nervous. Find him yourself and tell him your lawyer will draw up and agreement that you will forgive all past child support if he signs adoption papers. You would be surprised how many men do this. If you have the state find him this will not be possible. I am not a lawyer.

Unless the OP received government benefits for the child, she can forgive part or all of the arrears if she wants to, regardless of who tracks the father down.