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Old 11-15-2008, 06:09 PM
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Stepparent Adoption.

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NYS.

I live in New York State. My boyfriend and I are not married , however we will be within the next year. I have a daughter from a previous relationship , and my boyfriend and I are both very eager for him to adopt her. Her fathers name is NOT on her birth certificate , so I am her one and only custodial parent. What do we need to do to start the process? Must we be married? Exactly what is the process from begginning to end? Straight forward answers to these questions are hard to come by so please any advice will be appreciated.
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Old 11-15-2008, 06:12 PM
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You will have to establish who the FATHER of the child is first.
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Old 11-15-2008, 06:14 PM
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Then you need to get married and STAY married.
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Old 11-18-2008, 01:55 PM
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Unbelievable.

I just wanted to thank you for not even coming close to answering my question , and insulting me in the process. You obviously have no idea what your talking about and have no business answering legal questions. Just so were clear , all i asked you for was a simple answer. Not only did you not give me that but you made assumptions about me that aren't even close to true. Thanks for nothing.
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Old 11-18-2008, 02:00 PM
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I just wanted to thank you for not even coming close to answering my question , and insulting me in the process. You obviously have no idea what your talking about and have no business answering legal questions. Just so were clear , all i asked you for was a simple answer. Not only did you not give me that but you made assumptions about me that aren't even close to true. Thanks for nothing.
No one insulted you. You got the two first basic steps for how to do a stepparent adoption.

Bummer you don't "enjoy" the law. Perhaps you will like it more when an attorney you are paying $200/hour tells you the exact same thing.

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Old 11-18-2008, 02:01 PM
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NYS.

I live in New York State. My boyfriend and I are not married , however we will be within the next year. I have a daughter from a previous relationship , and my boyfriend and I are both very eager for him to adopt her. Her fathers name is NOT on her birth certificate , so I am her one and only custodial parent. What do we need to do to start the process? Must we be married? Exactly what is the process from begginning to end? Straight forward answers to these questions are hard to come by so please any advice will be appreciated.
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Old 11-18-2008, 02:17 PM
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I just wanted to thank you for not even coming close to answering my question , and insulting me in the process. You obviously have no idea what your talking about and have no business answering legal questions. Just so were clear , all i asked you for was a simple answer. Not only did you not give me that but you made assumptions about me that aren't even close to true. Thanks for nothing.
I'm sorry - but you got the answer - get married and stay married (for at least a year) where was the insult???
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Old 11-18-2008, 02:21 PM
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no one is going to walk the OP through a step parent adoption.

OP, you WILL need an attorney. you most likely will be required by law to contact dad and get his permission to adopt. do not under any circumstance do this without an attorney, if not done properly, dad might change his mind and have the adoption vacated. then you will be in a real legal mess.

and you stop being rude.

it was correct advice you were given, it didn't come with poetry. dad will have to be established as dad first so he can be disestablished so your husband can adopt. then you WILL have to be married for at least a year for the courts to be assured you are in a stable relationship.
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