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#1
10-07-2009, 07:51 PM
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Termination of rights before adoptionWhat is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NY My daughter was born last november (2008) and i havent even spoken to her father since July of 2008. yes, he knows she exists, i told him i was pregnant, but he made it very clear he wanted no part in her life. i did NOT put him on the certificate, and she has my name. i am currently in a relationship and the long term plan is for us to get married and for her to be adopted by him. my question is, do i have to wait for us to be married/him to be ready to apply to adopt her to terminate his rights, or can i do it now? also, with this amount of time passed, does anyone know if it has to be voluntary or can it be involuntary? thanks! -Kym |
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10-07-2009, 08:01 PM
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#3
10-10-2009, 08:22 PM
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re:termination of rights before adoptionso i actually have to go through that whole legal process, or can i just say he's her dad and have him sign paper stating such and move on with life? |
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10-10-2009, 08:26 PM
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10-10-2009, 08:27 PM
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10-13-2009, 10:17 AM
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no i'm referring to the man i want to adopt my daughter. not the man who donated sperm to create her. |
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10-13-2009, 11:05 AM
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| Yes, you need to be married to the new man before the court will consider allowing him to adopt the child. Speak to a lawyer who is familiar with your state's prcactices on how long that marriage must be before the court will allow the adoption. And, as mentioned before, you need to have the actual father legally determined before he can give rights to your new beau. |
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10-13-2009, 11:08 AM
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10-13-2009, 11:11 AM
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| And DNA will show that new dude is not the father if you try to caim he is. DER. Yes you have to be married (for a while), the actual dad has to be located, determined, and agree to the adoption. Yes it is a whole legal process and you will need a lawyer to do it. |
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10-13-2009, 11:15 AM
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| Folks, unless I'm misinterpreting the OP, she wants to have her current boyfriend sign the AOP, thus avoiding a DNA test. In other words, she wants to commit paternity fraud. Quote:
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10-13-2009, 11:21 AM
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10-13-2009, 11:29 AM
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10-14-2009, 07:14 PM
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and the man who CHOSE to abandon both me and his unborn child when I was 5 months pregnant. in fact... i even went out of my way to let his mother know she was a grandma. since he didnt feel the need to fill her in... and yet... still have heard nothing from him since i was 5 months pregnant. (daughter born 11/23/08...last contact with him was 7/27/08...his mother didnt even know until 9/1/08) so yeah, i totally want to go seek him out, spend months waiting for a test to say yeah he's the dad, so the man who truly loves and cares about my daughter can actually be her father... that makes a lot of sense... |
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10-14-2009, 07:23 PM
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10-14-2009, 07:54 PM
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| Dear; your previous track record on whom to father children with has been, shall we say, awful. You need to do this the legal way. Establish paternity, file to have his parental rights revoked, marry your current squeeze, establish that you two are legally a stable family, then go for adoption. Failure to do this can (and often does) turn around to bite one in a tender spot somewhere in the future. |
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