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Old 08-18-2009, 10:41 PM
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unborn daughter's last name.

im 24, pregnant and the father has recently decided not to be a part of her life. My mom has been with a man for over 15 years and I would like to give my daughter his last name. My mom and her boyfriend are not married and i was never legally adopted by him. Can I still give my daughter her boyfriends last name?


very sorry for the inconvience...i live in Pennsylvania.
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Old 08-18-2009, 10:43 PM
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You can give your child any name you choose.

As for a father's name appearing on the birth certificate, he would need to sign the AOP at birth, or have paternity established by the courts and have it addressed then.
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Old 08-18-2009, 10:44 PM
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without looking, I will give a reserved: yes

you can generally name your child anything you want but naming him/her with the moms boyfriends last name?

Not implying anything improper but that will get you some odd looks and possibly odd questions when folks here it.

What's wrong with your last name?
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I have a feeling that there is more of a relationship with the stepdad than there is with dad.
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Old 08-18-2009, 11:00 PM
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my "step-father" has been in my life since I was 9 years old. He has done all of the "father" things for me my whole life. I call him dad and he refers to me as his daughter. We live in a small town and everyone knows everyone's business, so people would understand why she had his last name.

My real father left when I was 2 and hasn't had contact with me in the last 6 years, but keeps in contact with my 2 older siblings.
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My sister did this in NY, our step dad raised her since 1 and she is 30 now so when BF skipped she gave her baby her "father's" last name...she always wanted to change her own last name to his (her bio dad wouldnt sign adoption papers even though he didnt give a rats behind about her) but didn't get around to it figuring she would get married soon anyway.
However her ex used it as an excuse to say the baby wasn't his and didn't need to pay child support. Of course a DNA test was ordered and eventually CS was awarded but it took months to get it all settled so be prepared for your ex to do the same WHEN you go for CS.
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Why... did you find it necessary to erase and ignore the question what is the name of your state? I can think of at least one state off hand where you CAN'T give a child any surname you want to.
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My sister did this in NY, our step dad raised her since 1 and she is 30 now so when BF skipped she gave her baby her "father's" last name...she always wanted to change her own last name to his (her bio dad wouldnt sign adoption papers even though he didnt give a rats behind about her) but didn't get around to it figuring she would get married soon anyway.
However her ex used it as an excuse to say the baby wasn't his and didn't need to pay child support. Of course a DNA test was ordered and eventually CS was awarded but it took months to get it all settled so be prepared for your ex to do the same WHEN you go for CS.
The baby could be name with the EXACT name of the boyfriend, and the process would be the same...

(Well, ok, this is a girl...I'm just pointing out that this post doesn't mean a whole heck of a lot)
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I didnt say it would be a legal answer just stating what happened in a similar case. Yes if the baby is JR it could still happen just wanted OP to NOT be surprised if it is used against her in court "It's not my kid, she gave it someone else's name so that proves it" (the exact reason sis heard in court and was surprised by it since niece looks just like him) but that point became mute when DNA proved it was his. Only thought to mention it as a side bar since she got legal answers from the experts.

As County clerk pointed out we don't even the know the state so it's posible OP lives some where where she can't do it.
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I didnt say it would be a legal answer just stating what happened in a similar case.
Seeing as if this is a LEGAL forum, we prefer the LEGAL answers..
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Which she got from 2 others while you are waiting for the state. I have read lots of post when others have given examples of similar situations to give the poster an idea of what to expect. IF she lives in NY then she knows she can use anyone's name she wants as sis did. In fact I was just reading a thread where the whole thread is pretty much everyone giving advice and not legal answers (in fact you are on that thread giving your opinion about a certain matter). When I posted my questions and someone gave me a "I had the same thing happen to me" response along with the legal advice I got it helped me. That is all I was trying to do, help.
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Which she got from 2 others while you are waiting for the state.
No one can be sure they gave an accurate answer, because since laws are STATE SPECIFIC, no one KNOWS what the right answer is until the OP identifies the STATE (genius).

So, I suppose I am the only one that's waiting to find out whether or not she can actually do what she wants to do before I tell her she either can or can't.
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Why... did you find it necessary to erase and ignore the question what is the name of your state? I can think of at least one state off hand where you CAN'T give a child any surname you want to.
Which state is that? I am really curious. What does that state require in that respect?
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Her original post said that she was from North Carolina.
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very very sorry.....im from Pennsylvania.
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