What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Adoption occurred in CT (but I live in CO now and my mother and grandmother live in ME).
I'm pretty sure this is a VERY long shot but I figured it couldn't hurt to ask.
When I was 9 months ago the courts gave custody of me to my paternal grandmother. The reason behind this varies, depending on who you ask. My mother was only 16 (15 when I was born) and my father was 22. They had married but then were going through a divorce when the courts gave me to my grandmother. My mother says it was against her will, my grandmother says she gave me up willingly. Not sure if any of that matters. When I was 4 my grandmother legally adopted me. Again my mother says she was forced to sign the papers, my grandmother says she did it willingly.
Anyway, years passed and I now have more reason to believe my mother instead of my grandmother. It's a long story and really not relevant, let's just say that history repeats itself and my grandmother's true coercive nature has been revealed. I hate that my birth certificate shows my grandmother as my mother, and she doesn't even consider me to be her child. It's bothered me for years and I quite honestly want nothing to do with that side of the family. I know though that since I'm an adult it really doesn't affect anything, it's just a personal preference. (Although about 6 months ago I did learn that the social security office still lists my mother as my mother, not my grandmother. Not sure if that is going to cause problems at some point.) Both I, and my mother, would like the adoption (or at least the birth certificate) reversed. Actually, thinking about it, it might have an affect in the future. Like if something happened to both my husband and I, I'd prefer my mother have legal say concerning what happens to me instead of my grandmother.
Is this at all possible? I'm pretty sure it's not, but hey, never hurts to ask. My grandmother, my mother, and I (obviously) are all still alive, if that makes any difference. Thanks for humoring me.
I'm pretty sure this is a VERY long shot but I figured it couldn't hurt to ask.
When I was 9 months ago the courts gave custody of me to my paternal grandmother. The reason behind this varies, depending on who you ask. My mother was only 16 (15 when I was born) and my father was 22. They had married but then were going through a divorce when the courts gave me to my grandmother. My mother says it was against her will, my grandmother says she gave me up willingly. Not sure if any of that matters. When I was 4 my grandmother legally adopted me. Again my mother says she was forced to sign the papers, my grandmother says she did it willingly.
Anyway, years passed and I now have more reason to believe my mother instead of my grandmother. It's a long story and really not relevant, let's just say that history repeats itself and my grandmother's true coercive nature has been revealed. I hate that my birth certificate shows my grandmother as my mother, and she doesn't even consider me to be her child. It's bothered me for years and I quite honestly want nothing to do with that side of the family. I know though that since I'm an adult it really doesn't affect anything, it's just a personal preference. (Although about 6 months ago I did learn that the social security office still lists my mother as my mother, not my grandmother. Not sure if that is going to cause problems at some point.) Both I, and my mother, would like the adoption (or at least the birth certificate) reversed. Actually, thinking about it, it might have an affect in the future. Like if something happened to both my husband and I, I'd prefer my mother have legal say concerning what happens to me instead of my grandmother.
Is this at all possible? I'm pretty sure it's not, but hey, never hurts to ask. My grandmother, my mother, and I (obviously) are all still alive, if that makes any difference. Thanks for humoring me.
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