VA Adoption/restore parental rights

What is the name of your state? What is the name of your state? Virginia

I am a bio mother, who 4 years ago was forced into giving up my parental rights to my children. It has been 4 long years and now, I am very emotionally and mentally tired. I want to see my children again. Now 10 and 8. My ex-husband and his wife adopted my children. My ex-husband and I are not on good terms at all, he will not let me even see the children. They talk to their grandmother (his mom) and asks to see me.

What rights do I have if any anymore.??? What can I do to see my kids.

Any information would be appreciated.

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

Originally posted by Babypandas
What is the name of your state? What is the name of your state? Virginia

I am a bio mother, who 4 years ago was forced into giving up my parental rights to my children. It has been 4 long years and now, I am very emotionally and mentally tired. I want to see my children again. Now 10 and 8. My ex-husband and his wife adopted my children. My ex-husband and I are not on good terms at all, he will not let me even see the children. They talk to their grandmother (his mom) and asks to see me.

What rights do I have if any anymore.??? What can I do to see my kids.

Any information would be appreciated.

My response:

You have no "rights" to visitation. In the eyes of the law, you are a "stranger" - a stranger who has as much right to visit with the children as I do. None.

Adoption begins with the termination of the natural parent’s rights which severs any legal ties with the child. When you signed the "Entrustment" paperwork, you had only 15 to cancel your decision. After those 15 days, the adoption was final. Most people hold that the confusion to the child and possible conflicts between the natural and adoptive parents are harmful to the child.

IAAL

I did not sign any paperwork. The only paperwork I signed was terminating my parental rights, which I was pretty much forced into doing anyway.

I was never notified by the court that this was taking place. Shouldnt someone have notified me.

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

Originally posted by Babypandas
I did not sign any paperwork. The only paperwork I signed was terminating my parental rights, which I was pretty much forced into doing anyway.

I was never notified by the court that this was taking place. Shouldnt someone have notified me.

My response:

I'm sorry, but what Notice did you want? Notify you of what?

You signed a "Termination of Parental Rights." The key word is "Termination." You do know what "termination" means, don't you? To end, to stop, to discontinue, etc.

Your children needed a parent. When you terminated your rights, you had no more say-so over what happened to your children. The next logical step was to allow them to be adopted because the State didn't need any more children in it's orphanages; and, since you "terminated" your rights, no one needed to give you "Notice" of what was to happen, and what did happen, to your children. It was "over" the moment you decided to sign the papers. So, it was decided by the court that your husband's new wife could, and should, adopt them. Additionally, when you terminated your rights, you also terminated your parent's rights to be grandparents.

Also, insofar as being "pretty much forced" to sign, your time limit for having the "termination" reversed on the ground of "fraud" or "coercion" ended years ago.

IAAL

You are a complete as#hole. do you not have anything better to do with your time than to make people feel horrible.

Obviously I do have a say so in this if a lawyer has told the grandparents to get me involved.

You think you know everything but you dont.

JERK

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

My response:

Ah, yes.

Another satisfied customer.

IAAL

[Seanscott]

Babypandas - IAAL often appears unsympathetic, but he is almost always correct in his answers.

I'm in the middle of a stepparent adoption, and I know he is right about this.

The termination of parental rights are "permanent and irrevocable".

At this time, I have as much right to those children as you do. Or the grandparents for that matter.

I don't know what your lawyer has told you, and I'm very sorry for you, but I think it's over.