What should I do.

[deussne]

What is the name of your state? Michigan

Hi, Ok its a long story but i will try to explain in short terms.

I am 21 year old and my ex gf of 3 years ago had a kid a year after we broke up. As of right now the child has no legal father. My ex tried taking me to court a few times to establish paternity and CS, but every time she would cancel. Now she is supposebly marrying in December and her future husband who is in the Navy suposebly wants to adopt the child. I do now know if any of what she is saying is true, but she is saying i have to be a legal dad and give away my rights in order to give him for adoption. Furthermore she canceled the last DNA test and now she wants me to sign a paper ageeing to be a legal father. I really like the kid but no more then a cute kid, i never had no fatherly feelings towards him. I would be happy for him if he gets to have a dad, as of right now i am completely unable to support him. Then she is saying that i will have to pay CS if i sign the paper even though her future husband is adopting him. What are my best actions in this situation? If i am a father I am willing to have him being adopted by her future husband.

[Seanscott]

If you don't do anything, you will eventually get a "petition to adopt" from the new stepfather & the mother AFTER they are married. That will start the whole process of terminating your parental rights.
If the stepfather is not deemed fit as a parent, and you are proven to be the father, then child support will be ordered for the next 15 years or so.
If I was you - I would do nothing until I get something from the court.
You will not help yourself by following your ex-gf's wishes. Do not sign any paper admitting paternity.
Personally, I would question why she wants you to accept paternity when she does not appear for the paternity hearings.
Maybe you aren't the father