16 year old get spousal support?

[robbins00]

What is the name of your state?New York State.....My 16 year old daughterhas been married to her 20 year old spouse for almost 2 years. He kicked her out of their home and has another woman. My daughter is still in High school and cannot support herself. He was supporting both of then until now. I am living on a widow's pension and get no money for her. She is staying with me now. they have no children. Can family court force him to support her until she can take care of herself?

[enjay]

You allowed your 14 year old child to get married so you wouldn't have to support her?

[nextwife]

A 16 year old married since age 14!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And just how DID whomever agreed to allow this to happen (and it would not have happened without parental permission) think she would be able to take care of herself if she ever broke up with her husband, if he dropped dead, if he became disabled - if she did not first complete her education and learn a viable job skill??

Normally a two year marriage would not result in spousal support.

WTF were you parents thinking, allowing such a thing??????????????????

I'm sorry, but I'm stunned that you condoned this.

[You Are Guilty]

Actually, NY requires a 14 year old to have both parental permision and have a judge sign off on it to boot. I'd love to know how they managed to pull that one off!

[robbins00]

Originally Posted by enjay

You allowed your 14 year old child to get married so you wouldn't have to support her?

No ...I am a widowed single parent......I did not allow my child to marry so as not to have to support her...in fact they lived with me for the first six months of their marriage....she is living with me now and I accept responcibility for allowing her to marry so young.....all I am asking is ...is he responcible at all for her? I allowed them to marry when i found out they were sexually active and were planning on running away if they had to

[robbins00]

Originally Posted by You Are Guilty

Actually, NY requires a 14 year old to have both parental permision and have a judge sign off on it to boot. I'd love to know how they managed to pull that one off!

they were married in Alabama

[stealth2]

I'm sorry, but this one floors me. What the hell sort of parent are you that you would agree to this? And then have the gall to ask about spousal support? You support your kid in any and every way necessary, if for no reason other than to make up for the idiocy of allowing her to marry at 14.

[JETX]

Originally Posted by robbins00

Can family court force him to support her until she can take care of herself?

Based ONLY on the information in your post, the court could order support, but it is unlikely.

The following is from a New York 'Support' website:
Today spousal support is somewhat of a rare thing. Many people believe it is assumed, but nearly one out of six divorce cases even consider it as an option.

In the past the wife was almost always the recipient, but the courts no longer view gender as a consideration. In most states marital conduct is also not a consideration. It is purely a decision made due to the economic consequences of each spouse. If an agreement between spouses is reached out of court, the court will give it significant consideration.

Temporary spousal support is more common and occurs at time of separation. It is either agreed upon or an order is issued. The temporary support is generally intended to try to preserve the standard of living of the family. Of course it is rather difficult for a family's income to suddenly be maintaining two households, so the standard of living most often tends to decline.

Here are some of the general factors considered for permanent support:
* The ability and time for each spouse to gain employment.
* The employability of each spouse.
* The future earning capabilities of each spouse.
* Who will have custody of the child (will the custodial parent be required to work).
* The length of marriage.
* The ability for one spouse to pay the other.
* The tax consequences of each spouse.
* The age of each spouse.
* The length of time support will be needed.
Source: [url]http://www.divorcesource.com/NY/info/spousalsupport.shtml[/url]

[rmet4nzkx]

As far out as this whole thing is, actually it is possible to get alimony in New York, in this case it could be argues several ways that the spouse will require several years training until she is employable and that as a result of the marriage, social security survivor benefits were forfited and would have continued until age 18, so it is possible that if she files for divorce she could get alimony.
New York Divorce Filing Requirements

A New York divorce may be filed for in a county where either spouse resides.

New York Divorce Grounds

The following are the New York grounds for divorce:

* living separate and apart for 1 year under the terms of a separation agreement which is in writing and signed and notarized;
* living separate and apart for 1 year under the terms of a judicial separation decree;
* adultery;
* abandonment for 1 year;
* imprisonment for 3 or more consecutive years; and
* cruel and inhuman treatment.

New York Alimony Laws

New York alimony or spousal support may be awarded to either spouse upon the following factors:

* the income and property of the spouses, including any marital property divided as a result of the dissolution of marriage;
* any transfer of property made in anticipation of divorce;
* the duration of the marriage;
* the wasteful dissipation of marital property;
* the contribution of each spouse to the marriage and the career of the other spouse, including services rendered in homemaking, child care, education, and career building of the other spouse;
* the tax consequences to each spouse;
* any custodial and child support responsibilities;
* the ability of the spouse seeking support to become self-supporting and the time and training necessary;
* any reduced lifetime earning capacity as the result of having foregone or delayed education, training, employment, or career opportunities during the marriage;
* whether the spouse from whom maintenance is sought has sufficient property and income to provide maintenance for the other spouse; and
* any other factor the court deems just and equitable.

[robbins00]

i came here for advise ....not to be judged by my mistakes in parenting....any parent knows each child is different and the sames rules are not right for each child...by allowing my child to marry at 14 ...i thought i was doing the best I could for her I dont think it's fair to judge me by others personal moral standards....I raise my children alone after their father who was a Vietnam Veteran ...passed away iwould much rather know where my child was than to have her join the ranks of the thousands of missing children

[stealth2]

I'm sorry, but there is little that is in a child's best interests to marry at 14. Especially based on that child being sexually active. A lot of us are raising children effectively alone. So that's not an excuse.

[JETX]

Originally Posted by stealth2

I'm sorry, but there is little that is in a child's best interests to marry at 14. Especially based on that child being sexually active. A lot of us are raising children effectively alone. So that's not an excuse.

Awwww, come on!!! You know that everyone likes to be a 'victim'. Much easier than being responsible and accountable.

[stealth2]

yeah, I'm mean. But there is NO WAY to excuse a decision allowing a 14 yo to marry. That's just being a sh*tty parent.

[rmet4nzkx]

Maybe a part of the reason to let them marry was so her husband could avoid statutory rape charges?

[stealth2]

Originally Posted by rmet4nzkx

Maybe a part of the reason to let them marry was so her husband could avoid statutory rape charges?

That would make OP an even ****tier parent.