I met with the husband at his place yesterday and discussed his situation. Here’s the recap in brief:
I showed the printed out page of our discussion here and we went through it. He thanks everyone for their kind and thoughtful contribution.
He seems mainly depressed because he misses his kids and is left all alone and no one to talk to, other than a couple of his old “forgotten” friends that are out-of-state and with somewhat help. He wanted to call the police for missing kids or kidnapping since his wife took the kids and sneaked out on him while he was sleeping and has no idea about their whereabouts or any response from calling them on their cell phones, not even from the kids. He believes that the kids are being “silenced” by their mom. He has called her family members and friends, but no one seems to know or perhaps release their whereabouts. After reading the note his wife left him and contemplating on some of the replies on this forum, he decided to just wait silently until he gets the divorce papers and court orders. He has already packed up most of his personal stuff. Being family friends of ours, we have also tried to call her up, but to no answers.
The questions now are as follows:
1. Can he still call the police and report missing or kidnapped kids and explain?
2. Divorce proceeding takes long time and he has a $3000 check left by his wife which he just deposited and will take two weeks to clear. He has current house bills unpaid such as gas, electric, phone/cable/internet, groceries and fuel for his car to pay out of that $3000 to live on since his wife is not there to pay for them. He will also incur monthly rent of $1800 by the end of this month as well must he continue to stay. How can he possibly live and move out with that kind of money when he must pay the rent and bills of his current and perhaps future expenses until he moves out of his current residence, which may take anywhere from a month to six months or more until divorce is finalized or as per court orders? He will have nothing left and require more should he decide to continue to stay. He wants to move out ASAP without further incurring current expenses. What must he do in this regard?
3. He thinks that since she can fight back his claim for spousal alimony, he does not want to pursue it any longer and cannot afford an attorney to fight for it but just wants to get the divorce over with, move out asap and have them back in.
4. How can he pay for child support when she has been the breadwinner, has been supporting all of them, earns more than enough to even claim for it otherwise and requesting spousal support? Besides, how can she get child support from him when he is 2 years jobless, has no money and the wife has been supporting them all with ease in the first place? Remember, she makes over 70K+.