Alimont in Alabama

What is the name of your state? Alabama

My sister is getting divorced. Has 2 kids. She was rewarded temporary custody and to pay him $400 a month in alimony. She does is on leave of absence from her job and is living with me in another state in order for her and the kids to be save from emotional and physical abuse. He gets SS monthly and is considered disabiled even through he can hunt, fish and put a boat in and out of the water. He did ther taxes without her signing or doing a pin number on line. He wiped out their account of more than $5000.

I need advice on how to get her where she does not have to pay him. After taxes and insurance is taken out of her check and now alimony she will have about $600 a month to live on.

what can you say, in this day and age Women are Equally responsible for the financial costs of raising the kids.

She married him, she had his kids, so why is she complaning about paying him alimony?

Men have been getting the short end of a stick for years, so....

Fair is Fair!

Excuse me BUT

This guy can hunt and fish and hook up a boat and put it in the water but he can't work!!!! He has selective disability. He selects to be disabled to not work.

It's called laziness not disability!!!

This man has physically and mentaly abused my sister and her boys. All he should be entitled to is a swift kick in the pants.

She does not have a job yet and will not be able to get one until her and the boys finish all the counseling and hearings. It takes two days of travel to get her back for court.

Its not a man-woman issue but what is right and this is not right. Her boys are scared that their Daddy is going to find them. The oldest wants to kill him.

Now tell me that you think she owes this man anything and if you say yes then I know you are not a good human being but a man that some woman took to the cleaners. This is not the case here. My sister is only asking for the boys and her car. She doesn't want child support, alimony, his truck, the house, or boat. She is walking anyway with nothing.

Now tell me that you think she owes this man anything and if you say yes then I know you are not a good human being.
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Maybe there is something very wrong with your sister for a judge to demand she pay alimony.

You have to be objective in this matter.

Its obvious by the outcome that this "abuse" is not well documented, if it is, then that is grounds for an appeal.

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Please excuse zappy, there are others her that do care and will try to help you legally. I am not an attorney so can only give you an educated opinion instead of a legal one. Hopefully one of them will pop in and help you.

My opinion- Was this amount based on what she was making at the time? she may be able to go back to court and get it changed if she is no longer working. How did he get alimony awarded to him anyway? Is he actually (per a doctor) disabled? Is he drawing anything because of this? Is he suppose to be paying child support since she has custody?

Has the final decree went through yet? Is this a temporary order? Have you asked the attorney handling the divorce what he can do?

I know these are more questions instead of answers but they are the things that you have to think about, and will make a difference in the answer.

Originally posted by vlt
Excuse me BUT

This guy can hunt and fish and hook up a boat and put it in the water but he can't work!!!! He has selective disability. He selects to be disabled to not work.

It's called laziness not disability!!!

This man has physically and mentaly abused my sister and her boys. All he should be entitled to is a swift kick in the pants.

She does not have a job yet and will not be able to get one until her and the boys finish all the counseling and hearings. It takes two days of travel to get her back for court.

Its not a man-woman issue but what is right and this is not right. Her boys are scared that their Daddy is going to find them. The oldest wants to kill him.

Now tell me that you think she owes this man anything and if you say yes then I know you are not a good human being but a man that some woman took to the cleaners. This is not the case here. My sister is only asking for the boys and her car. She doesn't want child support, alimony, his truck, the house, or boat. She is walking anyway with nothing.

=========>>> Just because he can go fishing does not mean he is not disabled! Why did he go out? I am disabled and I can fish, hook up a boat, etc., so I personally RESENT what you are implying. If he forged his disability then report him, otherwise don't assume you know more than his doctors. It is not easy to get disability.

She needs to ask for child support. This may help offset the alimony. Whether the kids are afraid of him or not, he still needs to support them. And even though she isn't getting it (whether it be his refusal or her not asking) is irrellevent. He still has the right to visitation. He didn't balk at her for taking the kids that far away? Did she get the courts okay to leave the state? Is it in the court papers that she notify them of her whereabouts? What if he has already gone back into court and now has full custody and child support, not to mention her car? That is one reason why it is not wise to *disappear*. The court has no way to notify you.

And if she is not working, she can ask the court for modification of alimony due to no income. Whether it is granted or not is up to the judge. She should ask for everything and let the court decide what to award, and to whom.

You are right when you said, "Its not a man-woman issue but what is right and this is not right". And some things she seems to be doing are not right as well. Its not okay for her to decide any more than it is for him. The door swings both ways.