What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? TN (Maury county)
My husband has filed for divorce. The only reason he beat me to it is because he's controlling the finances and I do not get any money unless he "gives" it to me. Example. He gives me barely enough to do groceries for a family of 6 and 15 dollars in allowance twice a month. He has outright refused to give me funds to help pay for a lawyer on my end and I am having great difficulty in finding one that will do it pro bono. I'm a SAHM (have been for 14 yrs) with 4 kids ages 3,5,11 and 13. Will have been married 20 yrs come this Nov. He's already informed me that he won't have to pay me very much in alimony because he says all of his needs (bills, mortgage-he's planning on keeping the house while I have to move) and such will come first. He's also planning on trying to get 50/50 or more custody of the kids so that he won't have to pay a huge amount of child support. This he's said, of course he'll deny. He even suggested splitting up the kids between us and rotating them weekly. With no lawyer help right now I'm lost and believing him. I'm scared I'll be forced to accept something not beneficial to me and the kids. He's having an affair with the woman next door and she's footing half his lawyer bills (and attending his meetings!) so I know they have some sly plan to cover that up by saying they're just friends. He makes about $70K base but with overtime he's already set to bring home about $75-80+K (he's already over $44k ytd as of July) He also gets a "stipend?" of about $450 + all travel gas reimbursed a month separate from his check for his (it was supposed to be our car but he snuck and put the title in his name only) car that he bought with outright cash so no car payments or anything. Basically he's getting an extra $450 a month...And I'm forced to accept $30 for an allowance...We do have a ch.13 to which payments are being made which include the mortgage. Ch. 13 payments are $2400 a month (of which about $2100 are mortgage + arrears) and then he brings home between $2100-$2400-depending on o.t.) plus the $450, plus what they reimburse him for any gas used which usually ends up being between $300-$400 so total for that separate check runs between $700-$900. So he has the potential to be bringing in a total of $5000+ monthly ($2600+ if you minus the $2400 ch. 13 payments.) Are they really going to allow him all those deductions and the ability to pay alimony and c.s. (he's pushing for as much custody as he can get to pay less) only after all "his" needs are met? It seems really bleak on my end?
What happens if I can't find a lawyer during the 30 day to respond period who will take me pro bono? No credit cards, no hidden money, no family/friends who can help. I've already tried. He's turned friends against me lying to them and not telling them the true reason for the divorce because "she's their friend too.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
My husband has filed for divorce. The only reason he beat me to it is because he's controlling the finances and I do not get any money unless he "gives" it to me. Example. He gives me barely enough to do groceries for a family of 6 and 15 dollars in allowance twice a month. He has outright refused to give me funds to help pay for a lawyer on my end and I am having great difficulty in finding one that will do it pro bono. I'm a SAHM (have been for 14 yrs) with 4 kids ages 3,5,11 and 13. Will have been married 20 yrs come this Nov. He's already informed me that he won't have to pay me very much in alimony because he says all of his needs (bills, mortgage-he's planning on keeping the house while I have to move) and such will come first. He's also planning on trying to get 50/50 or more custody of the kids so that he won't have to pay a huge amount of child support. This he's said, of course he'll deny. He even suggested splitting up the kids between us and rotating them weekly. With no lawyer help right now I'm lost and believing him. I'm scared I'll be forced to accept something not beneficial to me and the kids. He's having an affair with the woman next door and she's footing half his lawyer bills (and attending his meetings!) so I know they have some sly plan to cover that up by saying they're just friends. He makes about $70K base but with overtime he's already set to bring home about $75-80+K (he's already over $44k ytd as of July) He also gets a "stipend?" of about $450 + all travel gas reimbursed a month separate from his check for his (it was supposed to be our car but he snuck and put the title in his name only) car that he bought with outright cash so no car payments or anything. Basically he's getting an extra $450 a month...And I'm forced to accept $30 for an allowance...We do have a ch.13 to which payments are being made which include the mortgage. Ch. 13 payments are $2400 a month (of which about $2100 are mortgage + arrears) and then he brings home between $2100-$2400-depending on o.t.) plus the $450, plus what they reimburse him for any gas used which usually ends up being between $300-$400 so total for that separate check runs between $700-$900. So he has the potential to be bringing in a total of $5000+ monthly ($2600+ if you minus the $2400 ch. 13 payments.) Are they really going to allow him all those deductions and the ability to pay alimony and c.s. (he's pushing for as much custody as he can get to pay less) only after all "his" needs are met? It seems really bleak on my end?
What happens if I can't find a lawyer during the 30 day to respond period who will take me pro bono? No credit cards, no hidden money, no family/friends who can help. I've already tried. He's turned friends against me lying to them and not telling them the true reason for the divorce because "she's their friend too.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
