Boogiewipes
Junior Member
How does $300 per month = $4,200 per year?
Zinger,
Math in public equals potential embarrassment. Let me correct that.
How does $300 per month = $4,200 per year?
First, you are nowhere near poverty. Second, and I see this as your biggest problem, is focusing on the system and your ex. First, throw logic out the window as it doesn't necessarily apply in family law, and second, you have no control over what your ex does. None. Let go of it.So why does the court feel it's appropriate for my STBX to be living better than me and forcing me into poverty? My STBX hasn't contributed a single dime to our daughter. She refuses to get a job. The court doesn't care that she hasn't complied with the court order regarding seeking employment. This divorce started a year and a half ago and is now at the 6.5 year mark.
My STBX will file Ch7 after the final decree, thereby wiping out all of her attorney fees and credit card debt. She will be living great with the ability to work on top of the alimony while I as the custodial parent toil in poverty.
I'm all for the lazy getting up off of their collective butts, but the goal is to be legally helpful to the OP, not provide moral support.OP, in case you haven't figured this out, the advise given to you thus far is about how YOU will do everything possible post divorce to take care of your college educated spouse, and nothing about how your college educated (and I'm guessing lazy spouse) should do to take care of themselves.
I gotta tell ya... I didn't respond earlier as this entire thread made me see red as a divorced CP who raised two kids (in the metro-NY area) from 4&6 through adulthood on an income a fraction of yours. For starters - you have heating. Why do you need firewood? Why do you need someone to do your lawn? Have you not heard of two feet and a lawnmower? Seriously. Talk to the lawyers and GAL about adjusting the payment plan.
But please, do not paint yourself as poverty stricken on your income (even post SS). It is offensive.
P.S. You listed clothes for the child twice on your breakdown.
Dude! Sure I received CS - that's included in my FRACTION of your income. And believe me - I know plenty about firewood for heating, and lawn care. I own a home w/~1 acre of land, and I do my own lawn care - mowing, fertilizing, weeding, raking, etc. Myself. Post stroke. 'Cause I cannot afford to pay someone to do it. So what "lawn care" do you pay for?Stealth, I appreciate your candor but your assumptions are showing your biases. You enjoyed receiving CS while I will have to pay CS, even though I'm the CP. Raising your children in a metro area, you may not realize that firewood can be an affordable source for heat. As far as assuming I have a gardener who mows my lawn, that is laughable. Lawncare doesn't equal gardener just like child care doesn't equal nanny. I grew up on section 8 and clawed my way to the top of my profession through unrelenting effort.
Your biases are showing, too. You assume stealth2 received CS. You also seem to assume it was an amount that was actually useful.Stealth, I appreciate your candor but your assumptions are showing your biases. You enjoyed receiving CS while I will have to pay CS, even though I'm the CP. Raising your children in a metro area, you may not realize that firewood can be an affordable source for heat. As far as assuming I have a gardener who mows my lawn, that is laughable. Lawncare doesn't equal gardener just like child care doesn't equal nanny. I grew up on section 8 and clawed my way to the top of my profession through unrelenting effort.