Alimony Payments

[RAELYNDA]

I was married for 17 years. I have a high school education. I was married in Idaho and divorced in Florida. I am an alcoholic with 18months of recovery. I was the one who wanted the divorce. I get permanent alimony of 1,500 a month. After taxes its 1,350. My husband started a business which he took sole owner of. I have suffered with a sleep disorder for as long as I can remember,which I believe now was why I began drinking at a very early age.During my marriage I was hospitalised with mental problems more than once. I have been under a docs care for 2 years now with high medical bills. I have no insurance and am 8,000 dollars in debt. I rent an apartment for 425 a month and with utilities I am just getting by. I am 51 years of age. I am on three medications for the RLS. I just got a job about 2 months ago. Working with the mentally challenged. I am having problems with my sleep disorder and in alot of pain. Im getting ready to try graveyard shift as the day time is too painful for my legs. Im very worried I will not be able to keep working. I have no skills or education. I just got my computer 6 months ago and am learning how to use it. My alimony checks are always on time. My husband is now remarried and living in cinnectut.He has not worked in about 5 years. He has been building a new home. Now that I am sober and a member of AA I am very sorry I lost my husband. I am still in love with him. But he has moved on. Now that I have started a job and finding that I am having great difficulties keeping it, I just started worrying about him decideing to stop paying the alimony in which I would be homeless. As I have no family left. I know I should not worry about something that has not happened yet still Im just wondering if he decided he didnt want to pay anymore what my rights would be. I stayed home with our daughters and did volunteer work during our marraige. I have not been able to hold any job for more than 4 months.I have been in a panic since Im worried about being able to hold my job,any advice would be helpful. thank you

[Gracie3787]

IF your ex stops paying you would need to file a Motion For Civil Contempt/Enforcement with the court that the order was issued in.

You can do this yourself by going to [url]www.flcourts.org/osca/divisions/family/bin/index[/url] and downloading the form to file.

Now, for some "nonlegal" advice, Stop worrying about something that hasn't happened and probably won't happen.
Concentrate on your sobriety and health issues and if needed, check into filing for SSDI if you cannot work.

Good luck.
Gracie

[RAELYNDA]

Gracie, Thank you for your advice and warm welcome! I posted my question before I read any threads. Im sorry to say I was almost scared to see if anyone posted due to my situation. I thought Id get a good beating down. I guess no one could put me down more than Ive put myself down.Everyday I awake and every night I go to sleep I pray I could change my past,but I cant!!I feel guilty about the alimoney and am completly dependent on it.I spent more time in high school getting high than getting an education.Now Im just begining to learn things in life. And they are not comming easy.Im trying so hard to keep this job and Im hopeing if I can get my meds right I can do graveyard shift. I dont know what SSID is!!! Or whatever it was you had suggested I think I got it right if not sorry. Again thank you for your time.I know this too will pass but thanks for the reminder.One day at a time right!!!Thank you ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~lyndarae

[cyana24]

SSDI = Social Security Disability Income. Go to [url]www.ssa.gov[/url] if you think you might qualify. You need a certain amount of "work credits" to qualify - I think it goes by quarter years -I don't know the amount.

[RAELYNDA]

Cyana, Thank you for the website Im going to check it out. Im going to hang in there and do the next best thing . I just get a bit panicked when I think about things too much. Thank you for your time!!~~~~~~~~~Lyndarae

[Nick P]

I think she should stop and think that it's entirly her fault for her illness and not anyone elses and should not depend on another to pay her bills. Buck-up lady and be responsible for yourself. What if he died?

[BelizeBreeze]

Originally Posted by Nick P

I think she should stop and think that it's entirly her fault for her illness and not anyone elses and should not depend on another to pay her bills. Buck-up lady and be responsible for yourself. What if he died?

Keep your comments to yourself. This is a legal advice website, not a place for you to air your stupidity.

[snodderly]

You also need to check with your local human resources office about medical insurance. If your income is low enough and your medical bills high enough, plus the degree of your medical problems you probably qualify for medicaid. Having state funded medical insurance would take away some of that worry. You can find info at this website [url]http://www.floridamedicaid.com/[/url]


Now Im just begining to learn things in life. And they are not comming easy

I'm 52 and learn something new about myself every day. Some of it isn't all that pleasant to face. Pat yourself on the back for growing into the kind of person who can look internally and face your deamons. Screw people who don't get it....the jerks will one day be given the opportunity to come face to face with their own mistakes.

Stop looking ahead with dread and stay focused on day to day. You will be fine.

[cyana24]

You also need to check with your local human resources office about medical insurance. If your income is low enough and your medical bills high enough, plus the degree of your medical problems you probably qualify for medicaid. Having state funded medical insurance would take away some of that worry.

Thank you for bringing this up, snodderly. I completely forgot about medicaid. If she has really limited financial resources and has sufficient medical documentation of her health problems, she probably is eligible to receive SSI (Supplemental Security Income) if she is ineligible to receive SSDI. Actually she may be eligible to receive both if she has enough work credits to receive SSDI but her award is small.

[RAELYNDA]

Thank you all for the information. I managed to get my taxes paid with the first 5 pay checks I got I owed 1,234.00, that has taken alot of stress off of me. Im now trying to get my medical bills paid off. I owe about 700.00 on them. No body knows that they are responsable for the choices I have made more than me, so to the person who told me to step up, well thats is what I am doing. If something happens to my husband then I will be homeless, unless I can get caught up fast enough and then I could probably babysit. Right now I am a rha assisting two mentally retarded women. I make 6.25 an hour. I love helping them out but the job is very hard. I try very hard to treat them with respect but I must say it is getting harder everyday, you can only get spit on so many times before you start to get angry. I will not stay at that job if I am not my best they deserve that much they have been through alot and they trust me. After 6months I will be able to get insurance, then maybe I can get the right treatment for the restlessleg syndrome. My big dream in life right now would be to be able to support myself.I just hope my time doesnt run out before I get there. I will get there. And I will get there with my head high and respect for myself. Again thank you for responeding back to me and not making me feel worse than I all ready do~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Lyndarae

[cyana24]

Very well stated, veronicalouise!

[RAELYNDA]

Yes Verinicalouise, Thank you for the pat on the back and the information.I have been sober for 19 months now.Everyday I have to face the pain I have caused. But I do that by knowing I did cause pain. I have been addicted to alcohol since I was 12years old(both parents were alcoholic) I had no idea what life was about.I might have been breathing but there was no feelings going on. I love being sober it feels so good.And I am starting to make something out of myself. I just need to clean up some mistakes and get out of debt and I am doing that one day at a time. I had no idea life could be so beautiful even on my bad days they make my drunk days look like ****.I dont have a clue where or how to apply for SSDI or medicaid, but if these things could help me pay Doctors and family back then I actually could see the light at the end of the tunnel. thanks for responding~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~lyndarae

[LdiJ]

You don't tell us what state you live in now....however your state government website can give you information on where to go to apply for medicaid. The Social Security administration website can give you information on where to apply for disability. Good luck.

[RAELYNDA]

Idaho,,,Hey All, I know I'm in the wrong place to post this question, but I couldnt find anywhere elst to post and this is the only post I have so here it is. I have moved back to my home town in the last couple of years and this has started me to thinking about an old boyfriend of mine. We met in 79 and almost got married(long story). My question is, I would like to find him I think I know about where he is. But I would not like to contact him if he is married and has a family and all of that. I do know that he got married some time after I did in 82. I guess I have been thinking about him but would like to know his situation before I contact him. I would not want to cause any problems. I was going through some of our old photos and papers and I have his ss number. I did check out a couple of places but they all seem to want money for any information. Am I looking in the wrong place or what?? Thanks for any info. I would also like to find an old girl friend but I havent a clue where she might be THanks in advance~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Raelynda

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by RAELYNDA

Idaho,,,Hey All, I know I'm in the wrong place to post this question, but I couldnt find anywhere elst to post and this is the only post I have so here it is. I have moved back to my home town in the last couple of years and this has started me to thinking about an old boyfriend of mine. We met in 79 and almost got married(long story). My question is, I would like to find him I think I know about where he is. But I would not like to contact him if he is married and has a family and all of that. I do know that he got married some time after I did in 82. I guess I have been thinking about him but would like to know his situation before I contact him. I would not want to cause any problems. I was going through some of our old photos and papers and I have his ss number. I did check out a couple of places but they all seem to want money for any information. Am I looking in the wrong place or what?? Thanks for any info. I would also like to find an old girl friend but I havent a clue where she might be THanks in advance~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Raelynda

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