Alimony and short marriage (2 yrs 7 mo)

[childrenRpeople]

What is the name of your state? CA

Because of circumstances (I had a job, my husband was not yet graduated), I went back to work after out baby was born. My husband stayed home with the baby. He did this for 18 mo. Somewhere around there, things fell apart. In a nutshell, he went through some sort of breakdown...heavy alcohol, drugs and very abusive behavior progressively got worse until I left 6 months later (when our son turned 2).
My husband now has his degree and an insurance license that I helped him finance. He is still not working in a long-term position...only odd jobs.
He wants alimony paid to him. He says that he sacrificed his career dreams to be "mother" to our child while I climbed the corporate ladder (more like get myself to work everyday to keep a roof over our heads).
Would alimony be favored for a marriage so short? Especially since he has adequate training/degrees? Does the fact that I am the sole supporter of our child play any role in this?

Thanks in advance-CRP

[nextwife]

Usually not. Under three years is a very short marriage.

I've had nail polish bottles around longer than that.

[childrenRpeople]

Too funny!
I think I have nailpolish from high school..talk about sentimental.

Well, my ex feels that he is ENTITLED to the spousal support (and entitled to our son too...as if anyone can be entitled to another human being...what about what kids are entitled to? Okay, off my soapbox now )

I'm curious if anyone else has input about short marriages and alimony....

Tell your ex he's a piece of crap.

Or, to wear a dress to court and sit with his legs apart. You never know in California.

As for the length of the marriage, forget alimony. He won't get it.

[childrenRpeople]

Love the suggestion for my ex...he DOES have better legs than me so the dress suggestion may work for him. Hope our judge likes his men HAIRY : )


Yea...he's a pretty crappy guy these days although to be fair, he was pretty wonderful once-upon-a-time. Crazy what drugs does to a brain.

So, I take it that his request for alimony is not likely to be granted.

Oberauerdorf, thanks for the laugh this afternoon...laughing is what's keeping me going : )

Great question...I am wondering the same thing since I am soon to be in the same position.

My fiance is coming from jamaica and will be stay at home dad for a good year. I just want to protect myself and my baby incase he doesn't help provide for us.
My friends and family are more worried about it then I am so I want to find out for sure if I would have to pay him alimony or not.
Can I he sign a prenup being an illegal alien??

[nextwife]

Absolutely have hiim sign a prenup stating no alimony, if you can.

You may have some "sponsorship" duties as your fiancee is not a citizen and they are coming into the US through you. I'm not sure what spousal sponsors are obligated to provide- you mught post in the Immigration Forum. When my daughter needed a visa to get into the US from her birth country, we had to vouch for financial support as her sponsor (no problem, we are also her parents now).