Alimony vs. Child Support

[jassie4229]

What is the name of your state? Arizona
I am 55 years old and have been awarded spousal maintenance for 10 years. What happens if my ex goes out and has a child with someone and doesn't marry them, but ends up paying child support? What will happen as far as my spousal maintenance, will it stop because he has to support a child, or will it stay in tact because it was awarded first?What is the name of your state?

 

[Bali Hai]

What is the name of your state? Arizona
I am 55 years old and have been awarded spousal maintenance for 10 years. What happens if my ex goes out and has a child with someone and doesn't marry them, but ends up paying child support? What will happen as far as my spousal maintenance, will it stop because he has to support a child, or will it stay in tact because it was awarded first?What is the name of your state?

He is legally required to pay the alimony until its completion or further order from the court.

Realistically, if he doesn't have the money to pay alimony, what do you think will happen?

I suggest you work very hard and progress your career very vigorously so that, should the alimony stop, you won't even miss it.

What is your occupation?

 

[nextwife]

What is the name of your state? Arizona
I am 55 years old and have been awarded spousal maintenance for 10 years. What happens if my ex goes out and has a child with someone and doesn't marry them, but ends up paying child support? What will happen as far as my spousal maintenance, will it stop because he has to support a child, or will it stay in tact because it was awarded first?What is the name of your state?

However, if you are 55 (around my age, and I find myself more than capable or working full time) how old is he? What is your plan if he becomes ill, infirm, or dies and the spousal maintenance stops? Tim Russert just dropped dead at 58, my own dad died at 52, disbled for five years before that, and my hubby's dad died at 35. Hopefully, you would be working on getting some type of employment for yourself so you will not have a problem if ex is in rehab some day after a double bypass or a stroke and simply unable to work.

 

[jassie4229]

Working

I was working as a teacher's assistant, but since it didn't pay enough for me to live on my own, I am now working as a payroll specialist. It promises to pay more and hopefully provide increases as time goes by. Since I only have a couple years of college to fall back on, my earning potential is lower than it should be. I am attempting to take courses online and through the community college to try and earn a degree, but it is slow going. Trust me when I say, that I wish I didn't need to depend on anyone to help me get through, but I, like a lot of others, put my career on hold to provide my children with a safe and stable environment.

 

[fairisfair]

I was working as a teacher's assistant, but since it didn't pay enough for me to live on my own, I am now working as a payroll specialist. It promises to pay more and hopefully provide increases as time goes by. Since I only have a couple years of college to fall back on, my earning potential is lower than it should be. I am attempting to take courses online and through the community college to try and earn a degree, but it is slow going. Trust me when I say, that I wish I didn't need to depend on anyone to help me get through, but I, like a lot of others, put my career on hold to provide my children with a safe and stable environment.

Odd, I found it possible to do that AND work.....

Sorry, but I definitely RESENT the implication that working mothers somehow are NOT providing their children with a safe and stable enviroment.

And considering the DIVORCE rate, I would consider a parent with current job skills who is more readily employable to be a MUCH more safe and stable enviroment. I have NEVER had to worry about what was going to happen to MY spousal support. Nor will I.

 

[Bali Hai]

I was working as a teacher's assistant, but since it didn't pay enough for me to live on my own, I am now working as a payroll specialist. It promises to pay more and hopefully provide increases as time goes by. Since I only have a couple years of college to fall back on, my earning potential is lower than it should be.

The divorced men out there with NO college to fall back on, and, with "high" earning potentials as determined by the court, PAY ALIMONY!! Now just how did this happen WITHOUT a degree??

It happened by hard back breaking work, taking seminars and courses related to their career field, a good work ethic, loyality to their employer and the list goes on.

People with college degrees are a dime a dozen these days and that DOES NOT guarantee a good paying job!!
I am attempting to take courses online and through the community college to try and earn a degree, but it is slow going. Trust me when I say, that I wish I didn't need to depend on anyone to help me get through, but I, like a lot of others, put my career on hold to provide my children with a safe and stable environment.

Let me see, where did I put that violin???

 

[jassie4229]

right to judge??

Wow! I did not post my question to look for pity, or to offend anyone. I just needed an answer to a simple question. Since I am a complete stranger, and noone could possibly know me or my circumstances, it surprises me that anyone has the right or authority to judge me. I am sorry for posting here.

 

[fairisfair]

Wow! I did not post my question to look for pity, or to offend anyone. I just needed an answer to a simple question. Since I am a complete stranger, and noone could possibly know me or my circumstances, it surprises me that anyone has the right or authority to judge me. I am sorry for posting here.

you are not a snowflake. Nothing unique or special about YOUR situation.

I dunno, maybe it was that whole "will I still come before a BABY thing"....and then the blithering about what a GREAT mom you are.

 

[Lilyputt]

you are not a snowflake. Nothing unique or special about YOUR situation.

I dunno, maybe it was that whole "will I still come before a BABY thing"....and then the blithering about what a GREAT mom you are.

Why are ya'll ganging up on her?? I don't see where she was being insulting to working moms. I'm a working mom about to be divorced. She choose to be a stay at home mom and apparently her ex didn't have a problem. It's hard work! My mother was an at home mom until her divorce and I didn't knock her for it. There's nothing wrong with covering your bases like I'm trying to do, but to be downright rude and insulting is uncalled for!
She went to court and this is what they decided and it seems ya'll have problem she getting support for 10yrs. Let me know what jobs will pay a 55yr divorcee correct and I'll show a big fat lie! Jobs are few and a lot of corporation are greering towards hiring people with college degree only even in the the smallest of jobs! I'll dealing with this crap right now at one of the largest retails company's there is. Here's a hint: the star is everywhere now! So stop dumping on her. The baby isn't her's so why should she have to be made to feel bad about CYA!

 

[Ohiogal]

Why are ya'll ganging up on her?? I don't see where she was being insulting to working moms. I'm a working mom about to be divorced. She choose to be a stay at home mom and apparently her ex didn't have a problem. It's hard work! My mother was an at home mom until her divorce and I didn't knock her for it. There's nothing wrong with covering your bases like I'm trying to do, but to be downright rude and insulting is uncalled for!
She went to court and this is what they decided and it seems ya'll have problem she getting support for 10yrs. Let me know what jobs will pay a 55yr divorcee correct and I'll show a big fat lie! Jobs are few and a lot of corporation are greering towards hiring people with college degree only even in the the smallest of jobs! I'll dealing with this crap right now at one of the largest retails company's there is. Here's a hint: the star is everywhere now! So stop dumping on her. The baby isn't her's so why should she have to be made to feel bad about CYA!

Lily you really seem to think this is a support group. It isn't. So knock it off unless you have some legal advice. Legally it doesn't matter if her ex impregnates someone else. But quite frankly legally she also should NOT depend on spousal support to make ends meet.