Child Support and Alimony

[RRevak]

Originally Posted by IsabellaSoriano

let me know when we can trade that honor.

I loved being prego and loved giving birth...god bless the epidural

But ive told the hubs that if we end up with multiple (which dominantly run in my family) THATS where i'm petitioning that we trade

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by Dogmatique

Because she hasn't given birth yet, is it likely that the newborn would reside with Dad and not Mom, assuming Mom isn't declared unfit?

I know OP is probably running with the assumption that carrying/birthing child = more rights than Dad (initially if nothing else), but I think I might be having difficulty actually getting it across that giving birth does not automatically make her primary custodian or give her any greater rights to the child than Dad.

Maybe that's how I should've phrased it ...

OP, giving birth to the baby does NOT give you more rights than Dad or automatically make you more suitable to care for the baby. K?

If they separate prior to her giving birth then its not very likely that the child will end up living primarily with dad. The child is going to go home from the hospital with mom.

If the baby is born prior to separation, then that is a different story.

[cebuana]

My husband is a pilot and like what ive said he earns more money than i do. His not responsible enough for he doesnt even know how to takes care of his wife or showing love to me. It's awful because i was really in love with my husband before and i never though he changed.

Originally Posted by Dogmatique

Like I said, you do need to speak with an attorney.

It's unlikely that a newborn would be removed from your care, but you haven't shown any reason why Dad wouldn't eventually get the very least joint legal custody, and possibly joint physical (perhaps even full physical) custody. I know you feel that you are more prepared for a baby, but that's something that Dad can learn very very quickly and generally won't be held against him.

What kind of work does Dad do?

Why isn't Dad responsible enough?

What makes you more responsible?

[cebuana]

Questions: will the us government will send me back home since my green card is still not a permanent though?

[Ohiogal]

Originally Posted by Dogmatique

Because she hasn't given birth yet, is it likely that the newborn would reside with Dad and not Mom, assuming Mom isn't declared unfit?

I know OP is probably running with the assumption that carrying/birthing child = more rights than Dad (initially if nothing else), but I think I might be having difficulty actually getting it across that giving birth does not automatically make her primary custodian or give her any greater rights to the child than Dad.

Maybe that's how I should've phrased it ...

OP, giving birth to the baby does NOT give you more rights than Dad or automatically make you more suitable to care for the baby. K?

Dad and mom have equal rights. Quite frankly both will most likely end up with custody. Mom MIGHT get a greater time share however that does not mean that the baby will NEVER be away from her.

[Ohiogal]

Originally Posted by cebuana

My husband is a pilot and like what ive said he earns more money than i do. His not responsible enough for he doesnt even know how to takes care of his wife or showing love to me. It's awful because i was really in love with my husband before and i never though he changed.

Based on the above statement YOU are not responsible enough to parent because you need someone to take care of you. If you need someone to take care of you then you cannot be expected to take care of a defenseless baby. Understand? Your reasoning doesn't change a thing. Your husband is a pilot? Then he is earning an income. He can financially support his child. YOU cannot. So based on the above should you not be able to parent at all? If we use your standards then yes. YOU should be deprived of custody because you are not responsible enough to be able to support yourself and the baby not to mention take care of yourself.

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by cebuana

Questions: will the us government will send me back home since my green card is still not a permanent though?

Because you are a conditional resident this might complicate things further; none of us can say whether you will lose your status or not - you NEED to speak with an attorney!

As OG said, there is NOTHING that you've said which indicates Dad is not fit to take care of a child; if anything the fact that he has steady employment proves that he is at least responsible enough to hold down this particularly highly skilled job.

You MUST understand that not "taking care" of you, the way you want, is NOT proof that he is unfit to be a parent. You might have had unrealistic expectations, or he might have changed after you were wed - and STILL he will be not be considered unfit based solely upon this. You really do need to come to terms with that.

Again, you need to speak with an attorney. There are Legal Aid and pro bono (free) services in your area; you need to start calling them.

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by cebuana

Questions: will the us government will send me back home since my green card is still not a permanent though?

Additionally (and because I didn't want them to get lost in the previous message), here's where you start:

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