Confused ~

What is the name of your state? pennsylvania

Okay ~ (taking a breathe) For the last 4 years i have been a pofessional escort, since moving out of our home, getting away from abusive marriage. Doing what i had to do to take care of my 2 little girls, we shared custody ~ ~ In October he had papers drawn up, i was to move back in house and take full custody of the girls and i expressed that i was finished with escort business. He was to move in with girlfriend, and see girls every other weekend.
He has honored me for taking care of him and my lil ones financially for the last 4 years ~ Paid mortgage at times for him, and my own rent and pretty much all childrens expenses.

Now ~ things changed ~ He goes on vacation in October with his girlfriend and comes home stating that he has changed his mind. I find out that his girlfriend tells him she doesnt want him with no money, so he now wants to sell house, and fight me for full custody of the kids.Thus he thinks he can take them out of state and move to NJ with his girlfriend and have me pay HIM.Talk about feeling betrayed. He has stolen monies from me as well, just finding all this out now. I have carried him financially for the last 4 years as the kids stayed with him half the time in the house, so if the water bill needed to get paid, or the electric, or the pool I took care of it ~

I am about to file for custody order and alimony (custody master wants us to keep things the way they are, 50-50 as far as custody arrangements for now`)which is killing me as you can imagine what he is saying to the kids

Custody Master is aware of my profession ~ basically stated "And you have known about it for 4 years , and now it is immoral?"
Thank god for small miracles.

I am concerned that i will be asked how much i have made in the last year, as i have a 1099 , but it is a small amount..I do not want this mans blood ~ Its never been about money for me, but for him it always has been about money. Its a shame.

I want to go back to school, i had a good job when i met him, and didnt work for 8 years, to raise kids. I am working on that now as well ~

I do not want to look like i cant take care of my kids financially, so i am confused as to what to expect when i go to court tomorrow to file for alimony and support for them.

Any insight?
I hope i made sense here in trying to sum up the situation, and thanks in advance for any insight you may have..
Peace out xoxoox

[stealth2]

Shoot.... I hope the judge is as liberal as the Custody Master... He may not be - just to prepare you. Honestly speaking? I think you nned a lawyer - I just wish you'd posted sooner than the day before you go to court. Good luck.

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

My response:

You shouldn't hold out too much hope. Especially if the judge asks you for change of $10.00.

IAAL

Thanks stealth for the good luck ~ I get a feeling that if the judge (the big one eventually) is a lady, i may not be treated so kindly in ref to the escort biz.

I went today and got the paperwork for the child support request, will sit on it a day or two to make sure i weigh all my options before filing ~
I do have an attorney, she wants me to get him by the cogliones for support ~ but i do not want a war ~ it is exhausting to be 10 steps ahead of this man when he is being evil. I also have found out today that he went to Arizona, and left my lil ones with a grandmother for the weekend. That is contempt and i am not sure what that means really, but it sure pissed me off being frantic looking for them all weekend.
I will be in court i guess in about a month to see the master guy again ~ I just filed a harrassment complaint today as well as 2 bad check demands that he gave me. The only checks he ever gave me and they werent good. And i didnt care, but now i have to fight this man tooth and nail, with all i have.


My children have never been exposed to my past profession ~ and i have never exposed them to clients or anything to do with the business..They are now, as we speak making maps, from his girlfriends house to mine, to run away from HIM if he wins this case ~ My heart is breaking over what this is doing to THEM. Part of the reason i let him go for so long was to avoid THIS scenario, and now i see it was all for naught.

I have no idea what the comment meant by in case judge asks me for change of 10.00????? Is this meant to be funny? What did i miss, something funny? ? Cause this sure as **** aint funny to me, this is my life ~ without my kids, i may as well not breathe.

Well, I have a feeling you are not telling the "TRUTH" about many things.
First, I do not or will not believe that a mother can be a hooker and say she loves her kids, not when she put that proffesion first in her life.
Plus, you have a crazy boyfriend. Which makes me believe, you are both not responsible. He left threathing phone calls (nope, can't see anyone letting you have custody. Both of you have DWI also. You also forgot to mention that you forged a check from your x's checking acct. Called his company three times saying you were a LAYWER.
Trying to get him fired.

Could it be, that you are just angry, because you lost control of your life???? Seek help is my advice to you

God Bless

[stealth2]

Originally posted by angellove
Well, I have a feeling you are not telling the "TRUTH" about many things.
First, I do not or will not believe that a mother can be a hooker and say she loves her kids, not when she put that proffesion first in her life.
Plus, you have a crazy boyfriend. Which makes me believe, you are both not responsible. He left threathing phone calls (nope, can't see anyone letting you have custody. Both of you have DWI also. You also forgot to mention that you forged a check from your x's checking acct. Called his company three times saying you were a LAYWER.
Trying to get him fired.

Could it be, that you are just angry, because you lost control of your life???? Seek help is my advice to you

God Bless

let me guess - you're the girlfriend?

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

My response:

Perhaps she is the girlfriend, Steath. But, we can all see our writer for what CookyPussy really is - - and that's a "SKANK".

How much you wanna bet CookyPussy won't respond back to Angelove?

IAAL

Could be a family member, that knows alot. It's just sad that someone comes on here and wants advice, but, doesn't disclose the truth. How can you help someone and give proper advice if they lie about it.

I would love her to respond to me.

But, I think your right, she won't.

[stealth2]

IAAL... there's a thread I read this morning that made me think of you, and what fodder it would be for you. [url]http://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=173503[/url]

[kat1963]

Stealth, I about spit out my coffee when I read that one this morning. "Please tell me how we can work this scam so I can get into your country."

Angellove, even if she does post back, and it really is HER. It will be nothing but a bunch of additional lies anyway. I'm sure we'll hear a sob story either about how she was so abused as a child or how horrible her husband was to her (yet, she left the kids with him). "Abuse Excuse, film at 11:00."

KAT

Stealth, not sure what that has to do with me, but thanks..hahaha.

I was married for 17 yrs, (I was 19) never regreted a day of it. The reason why, i have four wonderful children from it. One is a teacher, the other 2 in college and one still home.

I was left a business in my divorce, which I didn't like, but, it paid the bills while I went to nite school to get my degree in science.

My "Greastest" profession was raising them and watching how they turned out to be Wonderful adults. I was never handed anything, I worked for it and you know what, When my kids came to my graduation from school, they told me how proud they were of me. Wow, what a wonderful feeling to hear them say that.

Back to Cookypuss, she can't say that, she can't even take them to "Take your kids to work day".

That's sooo sad
P.S- I wish i found this site before, this is so good for men and women going thru a divorce.

Kat, I agree ....the story was funny.

And thank you for your kind words.

[stealth2]

Originally posted by angellove
Stealth, not sure what that has to do with me, but thanks..hahaha.

Nothing, per se. But IAAL was around and it's the sort of post he'd appreciate.

Oh Sherrie, didnt think you would become a stalker again ~ Thanks for the evidence, once again ...

I have no problem with you,.I am glad you are there for him so he would stop calling me and talking about his problems, including your sex life. Ugh. Let him use you, and your money.
You think you have a prize? I have known him for 15 years, you have known him for one. Nuff said.

Yep, things are nasty because this well has run dry. No sooner did i tell him so ~ and he gets ugly. My kids know the truth.
You are in love with a man who has no integrity and steals from every job he ever had. But more importantly here, you are a stalker and i will do my best to protect MY children.
Bottom line ~ He has not paid for his kids, and i have.
I am proud of that fact ~ and proudof the fact that when he offered me money for sex, i turned him down.

Yeah, he is a really great guy Sherrie.. Take him please, and have a great life with him

As far as DWI, ~ people make mistakes, and i made a big one. He has 4 on his record, in fact he is a recovering alcoholic and drug addict ~ and he drinks with YOU NOW, right? Bravo, Sherrie , great pick ~ and i wont mention your PORN history.
I met him when he had nothing. and he still has nothing. and he will never have anything. And less us not forget his gambling addiction????

And you will never NEVER live with my kids Sherrie. NEVER. Put them in a basement? Have them sleep on a couch because they bumped into a curtain inyour daughters bed? PUHLEEZE.
You dont care about them ~ You just dont wish him to move in with you because he will have no money. Crystal clear to all that know you, Sherrie. So ~ Hey ~ lets fight her for custody, yeah.She was a escort.. Lets do that so you wont have to pay. Think i dont know about you and his fights about money? Silly old lady.
I will say that i do apprecaite you telling him to stay off their backs. They are children and that i will thank you for. But its not enough when my 9 year old cries herself to sleep because this 300 pound six foot 5 father screams at her how could she love her mother?


But you see, court sees it differently, you cant use against me when he took money from my hand, emailed my clients, used escorts, etc etc etc. for his benefit. Its so clear to all.

Stop emailing me.
Get married and leave me and MY children alone.
If you were a real MOM, who actually cared ~ when my children tell you that they are scared of him, that they do not want to live with you and him ~ You would do your best to HELP them ~ But thank goddess the counselors will...and so will their documents~

But i guess you are clueless that they arrived in school last week so hysterical because of his stressing on them, they had no choice but to go to their counselors and call me. Guess he forgot to tell you that.

NEVER email me again.


Geezus. and to think she is a mom.
Whadya have to get on here, and try to get some voting? wow.

Stop the nonsense, just stay sweet to the kids and leave me alone.