Continuing "child" support

[Lazyhusband1]

What is the name of your state? Kentucky

I moved to KY with my family as we were in finanacial difficulties when we were in NJ. Long story short - he barely worked there as well. Financial difficulties ensued in NJ b/c of his lack of ambition/goals/support, but I got an offer to move to KY and keep my NJ salary. I gave him 2 months to get the 2 children acclimated to their new school & then he should look for a job - that would have been Jan 2004. In June of 2004 I finally asked him for a divorce (I am still not divorced today but should be within the month). In July 2004 I asked him again to get a job & find a place to live. The next day he informed me he was buying a $3500 boat & was planning on selling some marital assets for the purchase - which he did. He finally got a job in August 2004 after I cut him off from the bank accounts - during this time he also drained my bank account so I couldn't cover the mortgage.
Throughout this time he still will not leave the house, nor will he pay any bills, but since he's not beating me, I can't have him removed without an order. He actually claimed in court that I wanted him to stay home.
Here's my question - I have no problem paying child support since I've been supporting my children & his lazy ass all along anyway. My concern is that I will have to pay alimony to him since he has purposely under-employed himself. If I were to resign from my job or get "fired" and financially couldn't pay him - what recourse would he have against me?

Thanks in advance!

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by Lazyhusband1

What is the name of your state? Kentucky

I moved to KY with my family as we were in finanacial difficulties when we were in NJ. Long story short - he barely worked there as well. Financial difficulties ensued in NJ b/c of his lack of ambition/goals/support, but I got an offer to move to KY and keep my NJ salary. I gave him 2 months to get the 2 children acclimated to their new school & then he should look for a job - that would have been Jan 2004. In June of 2004 I finally asked him for a divorce (I am still not divorced today but should be within the month). In July 2004 I asked him again to get a job & find a place to live. The next day he informed me he was buying a $3500 boat & was planning on selling some marital assets for the purchase - which he did. He finally got a job in August 2004 after I cut him off from the bank accounts - during this time he also drained my bank account so I couldn't cover the mortgage.
Throughout this time he still will not leave the house, nor will he pay any bills, but since he's not beating me, I can't have him removed without an order. He actually claimed in court that I wanted him to stay home.
Here's my question - I have no problem paying child support since I've been supporting my children & his lazy ass all along anyway. My concern is that I will have to pay alimony to him since he has purposely under-employed himself. If I were to resign from my job or get "fired" and financially couldn't pay him - what recourse would he have against me?

Thanks in advance!

Welcome to the world of a man.

If you voluntarily tank your employment to avoid your obligations to your family, the court will impute that income to you anyway. Then you could go to the slammer.

Again, welcome to the world of a man. Good luck.

[Lazyhusband1]

I hear what you're saying - please understand, I would never avoid supporting my children - ever. The problem is, that if it winds up being worst case scenario, my ex-husband will be bringing home more take home pay than me. He's acutally turned down promotions at his current job so that his income looks worse than mine. Based on the calculations, he could actually work part-time & play x-box like he's been doing and my kids won't see any of it. All because I just don't want to be married to him anymore.

What if my employment was terminated involuntarily?

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by Lazyhusband1

I hear what you're saying - please understand, I would never avoid supporting my children - ever. The problem is, that if it winds up being worst case scenario, my ex-husband will be bringing home more take home pay than me. He's acutally turned down promotions at his current job so that his income looks worse than mine. Based on the calculations, he could actually work part-time & play x-box like he's been doing and my kids won't see any of it. All because I just don't want to be married to him anymore.

What if my employment was terminated involuntarily?

Involuntarily in that you were run over by a truck and were on life support??

Tell it all to the court. The judge has the final discretion on everything you are asking about.

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by Lazyhusband1

I hear what you're saying - please understand, I would never avoid supporting my children - ever. The problem is, that if it winds up being worst case scenario, my ex-husband will be bringing home more take home pay than me. He's acutally turned down promotions at his current job so that his income looks worse than mine. Based on the calculations, he could actually work part-time & play x-box like he's been doing and my kids won't see any of it. All because I just don't want to be married to him anymore.

What if my employment was terminated involuntarily?

Ok...first, why do you think that you are going to be paying child support? Are you assuming that he is going to have primary custody of the children? If so, why?

Whether or not alimony could be a factor depends a great deal on the length of your marriage.

[Lazyhusband1]

Based on what my attorney has said, there is a large disparity between our incomes, that is why I would have to pay child support. He is not going to get primary custody, nor has he asked for it - but I have asked to be primary residential parent, but I may not get it since we've both spent equal time with the children in the past. We would split visitation evenly. When you look at the child support tables for KY, based on our salaries - the $ amount is huge!