disabled husband locked out of his house

[confusedinga]

What is the name of your state? Georgia
I was married in florida in 1996 and while in fla, became disabled under total disability from SSA and have been receiving disability since 1998. In july of 2000, my wife took a major career opportunity up in the atlanta area and we moved. I have a stepson with her and have been with him 12 of his 14 years. In july of 2002, we bought a house as she continued her career. In our initial move in 2000, she wanted me to be the stay at home dad for her son, my stepson in which i have been just that for 6 years now. My disability check in my account was used for almost 3 years just to make the house payments. Six weeks ago we had a dissagrement on how to handle an issue with my stepson. i told her i was going to florida for a few days to see my parents. A few days later.... ALL THE LOCKS ON THE HOUSE HAVE BEEN CHANGED. I dont even have all my clothes. She just started her new job and i have tried to get my medica insurance / dental insurance information from her and have got nothing. just one of my generic scripts is 250 dollars a month and had to have a root canal. I cant even afford an attorney. I am in need of an attorney that can help me that can get his fee's from her and her almost 100k job. HELP

[Ohiogal]

Originally Posted by confusedinga

What is the name of your state? Georgia
I was married in florida in 1996 and while in fla, became disabled under total disability from SSA and have been receiving disability since 1998. In july of 2000, my wife took a major career opportunity up in the atlanta area and we moved. I have a stepson with her and have been with him 12 of his 14 years. In july of 2002, we bought a house as she continued her career. In our initial move in 2000, she wanted me to be the stay at home dad for her son, my stepson in which i have been just that for 6 years now. My disability check in my account was used for almost 3 years just to make the house payments. Six weeks ago we had a dissagrement on how to handle an issue with my stepson. i told her i was going to florida for a few days to see my parents. A few days later.... ALL THE LOCKS ON THE HOUSE HAVE BEEN CHANGED. I dont even have all my clothes. She just started her new job and i have tried to get my medica insurance / dental insurance information from her and have got nothing. just one of my generic scripts is 250 dollars a month and had to have a root canal. I cant even afford an attorney. I am in need of an attorney that can help me that can get his fee's from her and her almost 100k job. HELP

You are responsible for your own attorney's fees. You are legally entitled to make NO decisions about your STEPSON. So saying there was a disagreement about stepson doesn't matter -- he is NOT your responsibility and you have NO say so. Your stepson is the responsibility of only your wife. What exactly was your disagreement about the stepson?

[nextwife]

You have a LEGAL right to access your own home until such time as a judge says otherwise. You must have your medical stuffd. Call the police and report that you arec illegally being denied access and that you are hiring a locksmith to return the locks to prior condition. .

She is supposed to have a CO to remove you before she is legally allowed to.

Also, an attorney can take a lien against your interest in the home to secure their retainer. You are likely entitled to spousal support. So the attorney can take care of helping with divorce and alimony.

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by Ohiogal

You are responsible for your own attorney's fees. You are legally entitled to make NO decisions about your STEPSON. So saying there was a disagreement about stepson doesn't matter -- he is NOT your responsibility and you have NO say so. Your stepson is the responsibility of only your wife. What exactly was your disagreement about the stepson?

Who cares what the disagreement was about?

That's trival by comparison to the rest of the post, but you homed in on what is against this poster.

How about some advice that "helps"?

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by nextwife

You have a LEGAL right to access your own home until such time as a judge says otherwise. You must have your medical stuffd. Call the police and report that you arec illegally being denied access and that you are hiring a locksmith to return the locks to prior condition. .

If the cops won't do anything, feel free to break the door down.

She is supposed to have a CO to remove you before she is legally allowed to.

Also, an attorney can take a lien against your interest in the home to secure their retainer. You are likely entitled to spousal support. So the attorney can take care of helping with divorce and alimony.

Ask the attorney to file for alimony pendente lite.

[Blue Meanie]

Originally Posted by Bali Hai

Ask the attorney to file for alimony pendente lite.

If he were to follow your advice and break down the door, he most likely would end up with a DV charge! That is bad advice Bali....

[Blue Meanie]

Originally Posted by Ldij is stupid

It has always amazed me how a supposedly "disabled" person has enough "ability" to travel from State to State, but is too "disabled" to put in an honest day's work. Amazing, isn't it? I guess it's just too easy to live on the government dole, and taxpayer money, then work.

Go away Evil Paralegal!!

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by baystategirl

If he were to follow your advice and break down the door, he most likely would end up with a DV charge! That is bad advice Bali....

DV charge from a broken door on his own house and nobody home??

Well, maybe they view things different in pecan country.

[CandiceH]

Originally Posted by Ldij is stupid

My Magic 8 Ball says, "Not Likely."

Sorry to go OT but can someone please explain to me who this Ldijisstupid is????? I think I missed something!

[Blue Meanie]

Originally Posted by CandiceH

Sorry to go OT but can someone please explain to me who this Ldijisstupid is????? I think I missed something!

4 letters...Starts with I and ends in L...

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by CandiceH

Sorry to go OT but can someone please explain to me who this Ldijisstupid is????? I think I missed something!

It's likely LdiJ with low self esteem.

"Not Likely" in the post gave the identity away.

[Ohiogal]

Originally Posted by Bali Hai

Who cares what the disagreement was about?

That's trival by comparison to the rest of the post, but you homed in on what is against this poster.

How about some advice that "helps"?

The reason it matters is because he could be saying a disagreement when in actuality he Smacked the kid and mom went a restraining order. I am not trying to assume anything. KNowing what the disagreement is about -- or even what type it was -- can help immensely. Truthfully the disagreement IS a major point. It could have lead to a lot of different things. Do you really want to tell him to get back in the house and have him find out later that mom got an emergency ex parte restraining order against him which per the advice here he violates?

[Ohiogal]

Originally Posted by nextwife

You have a LEGAL right to access your own home until such time as a judge says otherwise. You must have your medical stuffd. Call the police and report that you arec illegally being denied access and that you are hiring a locksmith to return the locks to prior condition. .

She is supposed to have a CO to remove you before she is legally allowed to.

Also, an attorney can take a lien against your interest in the home to secure their retainer. You are likely entitled to spousal support. So the attorney can take care of helping with divorce and alimony.

She might have gotten one and since he was out of state he hasn't been served yet.

[confusedinga]

First of all, whoever the LDIJ person is, should be ashamed of himself for making the comment about a disabled person can drive to the next state but can't put in a honest days work..... Those sort of comments have actually nothing to do with what this website was intended for. I'll leave it at that.

As for the what the incident was with my stepson. I had found for the second time a gun hidden in his bedroom. He lied about it. I confronted him about knowing it was a lie, so i was given another version of the truth. as if truth has versions. At the point where the 3rd lie came in, and i asked him about it, he just said "so what". Now i have been with him 12 of his 14 years, but i am not going to jail for smacking my kid, this is where his mother should have stepped in. and she didnt. Her responsibility was to get in his face and tell him, you dont talk to your father like that. thats how i handle when he talks back to his mother. When i got no support from her, i just said i'm heading to my parents for a couple days. the end of story. i've been gone over 6 weeks, she has not called me one time. there is no domestic violence, neither of us has ever been arrested.

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by Ohiogal

The reason it matters is because he could be saying a disagreement when in actuality he Smacked the kid and mom went a restraining order.

Doesn't matter what he could be saying. What matters is what he IS saying.

I am not trying to assume anything. KNowing what the disagreement is about -- or even what type it was -- can help immensely. Truthfully the disagreement IS a major point. It could have lead to a lot of different things. Do you really want to tell him to get back in the house and have him find out later that mom got an emergency ex parte restraining order against him which per the advice here he violates?

You expect people to conduct their lives on what someone may or may not do, or what a court may or may not order. This guy isn't hen pecked.

He has a legal right to his property, plain and simple.