Do i have to pay the abortion and the related expense?

[robinrobin2015]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? north carolina


My gf was pregnant half year ago and we decide to abortion. However, her abortion caused kidney dead and then a very complicated surgery. Of coz it brought very high expense. my question is: Do i need to pay half of the cost? Now she threated to file lawsuit against me

Thanks for your help!

 

[justalayman]

did you agree to pay any of the expenses? If not, tell her to take a hike.

 

[Proserpina]

(I also answered this on the other forum)

Robin, you need to do two things.

1. Dump this woman immediately
2. See #1.

You owe her nothing.

 

[robinrobin2015]

I never promised anything to her

 

[justalayman]

I never promised anything to her

I think proserpina was a bit premature as it has not been established you had not committed yourself to some financial assistance but given your response, now it's;

tell her to take a hike.

 

[Zigner]

I think proserpina was a bit premature as it has not been established you had not committed yourself to some financial assistance but given your response, now it's;

tell her to take a hike.

I disagree - this doesn't sound at all like a detrimental reliance matter and that's really the only thing that the mother could hang her hat on for forcing the OP to pay.

 

[robinrobin2015]

I donot understand what you said. Can you explain more?

 

[Proserpina]

I donot understand what you said. Can you explain more?

Robin, the answer was based on your (hopefully ex, now?) girlfriend having you sign something or promise something that may make you liable for costs.

I can tell you this though - if she does so much as enter the courthouse with the intent of suing you, she better be able to prove that her kidney issues were a direct result of the abortion.

And I do mean "prove".

 

[robinrobin2015]

Robin, the answer was based on your (hopefully ex, now?) girlfriend having you sign something or promise something that may make you liable for costs.

I can tell you this though - if she does so much as enter the courthouse with the intent of suing you, she better be able to prove that her kidney issues were a direct result of the abortion.

And I do mean "prove".

I have not signed anything to her or promised anything.

 

[Zigner]

You don't owe anything. Tell her to pound sand. Why is she still your girlfriend?

 

[justalayman]

I disagree - this doesn't sound at all like a detrimental reliance matter and that's really the only thing that the mother could hang her hat on for forcing the OP to pay.

Why wouldn't detrimental reliance fit?

Let me propose a scenario;

Gf; I'm pregnant.

Bf; I don't want a baby. Have you considered an abortion?

Gf; yes but I don't have insurance to cover it so I am just going to have the baby and give it up for adoption


Bf; (saying to himself, ya right. She's going to have the baby and I get stuck with child support). I'll help. I'll pay half of the cost of the abortion.

Gf; ok but you can't stiff me on this because I really can't afford it on my own.

Bf; no problem. I got ya covered.



So why wouldn't detrimental reliance apply in that scenario.


Now mind you it would only apply to the abortion. The additional expenses due to the injured kidney would not fall under the same claim.

 

[Zigner]

Why wouldn't detrimental reliance fit?

Let me propose a scenario;

Gf; I'm pregnant.

Bf; I don't want a baby. Have you considered an abortion?

Gf; yes but I don't have insurance to cover it so I am just going to have the baby and give it up for adoption


Bf; (saying to himself, ya right. She's going to have the baby and I get stuck with child support). I'll help. I'll pay half of the cost of the abortion.

Gf; ok but you can't stiff me on this because I really can't afford it on my own.

Bf; no problem. I got ya covered.



So why wouldn't detrimental reliance apply in that scenario.


Now mind you it would only apply to the abortion. The additional expenses due to the injured kidney would not fall under the same claim.

Ok, perhaps on the abortion...perhaps.

 

[robinrobin2015]

Ok, perhaps on the abortion...perhaps.

Now she is threatening me to the lawsuit with the following excuse:
I cheat her feeling and make her to pregnant, and the abortion cause her kidney fail.

What can I do?

 

[Zigner]

Now she is threatening me to the lawsuit with the following excuse:
I cheat her feeling and make her to pregnant, and the abortion cause her kidney fail.

What can I do?

Ignore her until she sues, then come back if she does.

 

[robinrobin2015]

Ignore her until she sues, then come back if she does.

I want to know: Does there exist some law to say "cheat her feeling" is ileagal?