Does this child really exist? She is lying How can I tell?

[Joshie78]

Arizona

Dated a girl in 97. Broke up with her and she said she was pregnant and moved to CA. Never proved it and never spoke with her again. She just contacted me and said we have a 12 year old son and she was dying of cancer. Her married name was ******(on facebook). I asked for pictures, documentation, something to prove it and she sent me bogus pictures. All of them looked cut out of a magazine. I am handsome, but really?

I was never able to talk to him, she never sent pictures, she kept giving me the run around. Out of no where she said she is moving from WA to AZ because her husband got deployed to Iraq. She showed up at my work (didn't even recognize her) and asked for adoption rights because she was dying. I told her no, that if I had a child I would be accountable. I am now married with three kids. I told her I wanted to meet him or at least talk to him. later that week she said "AZ is not working out and she was going back to WA. I think she is lying about the child. She never has a picture posted of him on facebook. She now won't return my calls and says to leave them alone and that I am harrassing them, but I need to know if it's true. I don't have her address or anything. I have the boy's DOB, full name, and state born in. Is there someway to find out if he exists without going through her since she won't return my calls?

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by Joshie78

Arizona

Dated a girl in 97. Broke up with her and she said she was pregnant and moved to CA. Never proved it and never spoke with her again. She just contacted me and said we have a 12 year old son and she was dying of cancer. Her married name was **** (on facebook). I asked for pictures, documentation, something to prove it and she sent me bogus pictures. All of them looked cut out of a magazine. I am handsome, but really?

I was never able to talk to him, she never sent pictures, she kept giving me the run around. Out of no where she said she is moving from WA to AZ because her husband got deployed to Iraq. She showed up at my work (didn't even recognize her) and asked for adoption rights because she was dying. I told her no, that if I had a child I would be accountable. I am now married with three kids. I told her I wanted I think she is lying about the child. She never has a picture posted of him on facebook. She now won't return my calls and says to leave them alone and that I am harrassing them, but I need to know if it's true. I don't have her address or anything. I have the boy's DOB, full name, and state born in. Is there someway to find out if he exists without going through her since she won't return my calls?

File to establish paternity and custody (and child support). You'll find out very very quickly.

(assuming you can still do so - after 12 years it might be somewhat difficult)

[thinktank03]

Originally Posted by Dogmatique

File to establish paternity and custody (and child support). You'll find out very very quickly.

(assuming you can still do so - after 12 years it might be somewhat difficult)

I agree. File for paternity. But it may be hard without an address or you can hire a detective and try to get a location by the emails sent on Facebook. IP address might help.

[Zigner]

Originally Posted by thinktank03

I agree. File for paternity. But it may be hard without an address or you can hire a detective and try to get a location by the emails sent on Facebook. IP address might help.

How do you expect a hired detective to get IP addresses from FB?

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by Zigner

How do you expect a hired detective to get IP addresses from FB?

No kidding!...

[jesslee83]

if you know of the DOB, state and full name of the child, you can always attempt to get a copy of the birth certificate online. you'll need the name she had when the child was BORN, not her name now. and aside from a child custody/support order(which would surely be hard for her to ask money for a child that doens't exist), you could, as one said, hire an investigator. she herself may be forced to open a custody/support case. but if she never does...can you contact anyone on her facebook? or find her on myspace, or twitter?

as for getting IP addresses, i don't know about those 3, but topix.com(which the city i belong to) is full of slander and libel, and if you pay them like $20, they give you the info and close the thread(if it's a viable reason to close it). maybe you can find her family. afterall, if there really is a child, someone else might be angry to know you haven't supported him, or if there isn't a child, they're going to want to know wth her issue is...

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by jesslee83

if you know of the DOB, state and full name of the child, you can always attempt to get a copy of the birth certificate online. you'll need the name she had when the child was BORN, not her name now. and aside from a child custody/support order(which would surely be hard for her to ask money for a child that doens't exist), you could, as one said, hire an investigator. or you could serve her with a restraining order, because i know it's childish, but in a situation like this, it could be slightly useful. i mean, if you filed a restraining order, barring all contact, she herself may be forced to open a custody/support case. but if she never does...can you contact anyone on her facebook? or find her on myspace, or twitter?

That is a monumentally bad idea. Seriously - jess, I know you're wanting to help but this has got to be one of the worst suggestions ever. I know where you're going with it - but that is NOT what OP wants to do.