ex-spouse/remarriage/fraud

[mwdw]

What is the name of your state? WA

I have a few questions.

My ex had her lawyer put in our decree that she could get maintanence for 5 years but she has gotten remarried in those five years. Can I stop paying her maintanence????? Do I have to notify the court of her remarriage or because it doesn't state that maintanence stops at remarriage I am obligated to continue paying her?????

Another question..... She got a credit card with just my name on it and started charging on it....she did this after we were separated and completely divorced. Then she stopped paying. I had no clue until I was served with papers....I immediately called the credit card company, the lawyer, and the collection agency. I paid the debt off and got it off of my credit report. But 4000 later I don't feel she should be able to get away with it. What can I do???

She is very difficult and doesn't believe anyone that this was fraud. Do I have to go to court over this or can I just give it to the police or a fraud team and let them deal with her???

Please help!!!

Thanks

[BelizeBreeze]

There are only one condition under which the statutory allowances to terminate spousal support may be bypassed.

Would you like to guess what that condition is?

[Ithildriel]

Originally Posted by BelizeBreeze

There are only one condition under which the statutory allowances to terminate spousal support may be bypassed.

Would you like to guess what that condition is?

Sex reassignment procedure?

[BelizeBreeze]

Originally Posted by Ithildriel

Sex reassignment procedure?

try again.

HINT: It's in the original post.

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by BelizeBreeze

There are only one condition under which the statutory allowances to terminate spousal support may be bypassed.

Would you like to guess what that condition is?

And she would still have her hands around his throat from her grave if she could do it.

[mwdw]

I have a hard time believing that in the state of Washington or most states that you can't go back to court and have alimony changed when the other person gets married and has been to school and graduated college and now can and does have a better job.

The courts are so stupid that they allow women (mainly) to get away with everything. Then I think that the courts need to have new blood in there that show that some women --most women are greedy.....just look at all these posts from women wanting more and more.

It is a disgusting thing and everytime I see a young guy with a woman and a kid or two -- I just want to tell him -- it is too late for you-- you are stuck until they are 21 and probably longer to the woman you "love."

Women-- don't be mad at me because I am a woman and I have seen the nastiest divorce ever with my current husband and his ex- she is a bi@#h and she only wants money. She will never stop until she dies.

It is horrible and I feel so sorry for most men that are "stuck" in marriages because they know that the women will get everything.

GET PRENUPS that are strong and lawyer proof!!!!!!

[Silverplum]

Originally Posted by mwdw

I have a hard time believing that in the state of Washington or most states that you can't go back to court and have alimony changed when the other person gets married and has been to school and graduated college and now can and does have a better job.

The courts are so stupid that they allow women (mainly) to get away with everything. Then I think that the courts need to have new blood in there that show that some women --most women are greedy.....just look at all these posts from women wanting more and more.

It is a disgusting thing and everytime I see a young guy with a woman and a kid or two -- I just want to tell him -- it is too late for you-- you are stuck until they are 21 and probably longer to the woman you "love."

Women-- don't be mad at me because I am a woman and I have seen the nastiest divorce ever with my current husband and his ex- she is a bi@#h and she only wants money. She will never stop until she dies.

It is horrible and I feel so sorry for most men that are "stuck" in marriages because they know that the women will get everything.

GET PRENUPS that are strong and lawyer proof!!!!!!

Lady. It's 5 years alimony. In less than 5 years, it'll be over. Move on.

[fairisfair]

Originally Posted by Silverplum

Lady. It's 5 years alimony. In less than 5 years, it'll be over. Move on.

hmmm., original post says my ex had HER lawyer.... blah blah blah

then she says "ladies don't get mad, I am a woman"

I think it is PALIMONY. and that is why the decree says NOTHING about remarriage, because there can BE NO remarriage.

[Shay-Pari'e]

Originally Posted by mwdw

I have a hard time believing that in the state of Washington or most states that you can't go back to court and have alimony changed when the other person gets married and has been to school and graduated college and now can and does have a better job.

The courts are so stupid that they allow women (mainly) to get away with everything. Then I think that the courts need to have new blood in there that show that some women --most women are greedy.....just look at all these posts from women wanting more and more.

It is a disgusting thing and everytime I see a young guy with a woman and a kid or two -- I just want to tell him -- it is too late for you-- you are stuck until they are 21 and probably longer to the woman you "love."

Women-- don't be mad at me because I am a woman and I have seen the nastiest divorce ever with my current husband and his ex- she is a bi@#h and she only wants money. She will never stop until she dies.

It is horrible and I feel so sorry for most men that are "stuck" in marriages because they know that the women will get everything.

GET PRENUPS that are strong and lawyer proof!!!!!!

[url]http://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=321859[/url]

[fairisfair]

Originally Posted by Shay-Pari'e

[url]http://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=321859[/url]

somebody is very confused, aren't they???

[fairisfair]

Originally Posted by Bali Hai

And she would still have her hands around his throat from her grave if she could do it.

Hate to disappoint you Bali, but according to "him", he is a she!

[Silverplum]

I'm pretty sure, given the morphing gender and generally high anger levels, that we're dealing with a subsequent wife who does not enjoy paying alimony to a previous wife.

[Shay-Pari'e]

Ya, she is the new wife. Today she told someone *They* don't have to pay the X anymore, yet yesterday the X was still bleeding *Them* dry.

She is a bitter woman.
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[mwdw]

Shay-Pari'e said --- "Ya, she is the new wife. Today she told someone *They* don't have to pay the X anymore, yet yesterday the X was still bleeding *Them* dry."

And the rest that have said those things below....

I guess you guys don't believe in having a joint account -- note the Log in name ummm -- maybe too sets of initials???

First -- she did not say still bleeding us dry -- said still TRYING to bleed us dry.

Anyway I am the husband and I don't appreciate any of your chatter. I asked a question which has not been completely answered. I did go to court in the past couple of days and had a mediation that was set up before I asked my question--- thought maybe someone had an idea. Mediation (court in my wife's) eyes settled the matter for now. We are done (I hope) and even though it is none of your business my ex has been paid for 6 years (under temporary and final orders) We (both my wife and I) do not feel we should have to pay her anymore. She has a new husband that can provide for her as well as her getting off her lazy butt and making her owe money.

Bitter -- no she is not bitter, just tired of paying the woman that has continuely lied and committed fraud on me and taken pretty much everything. We would continue to pay the final FEW MONTHS but come on she is remarried and she won't let me off the hook EVER. What my wife is upset about as I am and every guy or woman that has paid and done everything the courts have wanted is to continually get stuck paying for something and have no recourse. Like the fraud that she committed. It cost us thousands that we can't seem to get back from her without spending thousands more.

Also when you are in these situations you feel sorry for people that you see headed down the same road that you are finally seeing the end of. It is a sad and upsetting experience and now to have all of you be so mean and cruel that just tops it. It is sad and it can make you bitter in realizing that people you are asking help from can turn on you so quickly when you innocently log in to a site that both husband and wife have a joint "account" too and you honestly answer how you feel and what you JUST went through with the courts. Do I have to send you copies of what we signed in the mediation just to make you stop being so cruel??? Not going to happen so please just stop.

So please get back to my original question if you want to continue to comment!

Thanks

[CandiceH]

sheesh! I guess we were suppose to look into the "FA Crystal Ball" and find out that the screen name was initials. With attitude like that, no wonder you arent getting any help.