What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Virginia. After 22 years of marriage I want to file for a divorce. I have been a full time mother for the last 11. My husband earns $120,000 a year. Since I am the one wanting the divorce, he says that giving me $25,000 and then $1000 a month for 5 years is overly generous and that if I get a lawyer and it goes to court I will get much less so I need to jump on his offer. Is this reasonable?