he wont pay

[crazysessions]

What is the name of your state? Ca
My Ex Husband Lives In Pa. In Our Divorce He Was Ordered To Pay Me Alimony Until I Remarried, Die Or Futher Notice Of The Court. I was Receiving Payments For This Along With Child Support Until They DA Stopped Taking Payment Do To The Fact That Our Daughter No Longer Gets Support. Now He Wont Pay Me Because He Says He Can Not Afford To. He Is Remarried Has Two Small Children And Custody Of His Brothers Children. He Says The State Gives Him Little Or No Help In The Care Of Them. How Do I Make Him Pay? Is He In Contempt Of Court? Also He Never Paid The Court Fees From Our Divorce 11 Years Ago. Can He Be In Contempt For That? Thank You Trace

[Zephyr]

can you retype that without capitalizing every word?

[nextwife]

You ARE right. Support of an adult 11 years after a divorce should be more important and a far higher priority than support of two young abandoned children.

[wileybunch]

Originally Posted by nextwife

You ARE right. Support of an adult 11 years after a divorce should be more important and a far higher priority than support of two young abandoned children.

That's not really fair in the sense that he has a moral and legal obligation to his former wife and she had a "right" to count on him following through with that. Taking in abandoned children is a noble thing, true, but just how noble when one has to step on someone else to do it? And, wouldn't he be getting foster care $$ for taking in the children?

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by crazysessions

What is the name of your state? Ca
My Ex Husband Lives In Pa. In Our Divorce He Was Ordered To Pay Me Alimony Until I Remarried, Die Or Futher Notice Of The Court. I was Receiving Payments For This Along With Child Support Until They DA Stopped Taking Payment Do To The Fact That Our Daughter No Longer Gets Support. Now He Wont Pay Me Because He Says He Can Not Afford To. He Is Remarried Has Two Small Children And Custody Of His Brothers Children. He Says The State Gives Him Little Or No Help In The Care Of Them. How Do I Make Him Pay? Is He In Contempt Of Court? Also He Never Paid The Court Fees From Our Divorce 11 Years Ago. Can He Be In Contempt For That? Thank You Trace

What would you have done all these years if the court had not awarded alimony??

It's reasonable to assume you would have remarried or gotten a job that would have increased your independence and self respect 11 years later.

Alimony should not be awarded except under the most rarest and extreme cases. Stop looking for a free ride the rest of your life and GET A JOB!!

[LdiJ]

I don't answer posts that have every word capitalized, because I believe that they come from one of our forum "trolls".

I would also assume that someone old enough, and married long enough to recieve permanent alimony, wouldn't type a post in all caps anyway.

[crazysessions]

sorry about all the caps i have to do that at work and it has became a habit

[crazysessions]

To whom it may concern. I do have a job and have worked for the same company for 24 years. when my girls got in to their teens I worked the graveyard shift so I could be home with them and my mom would stay with them at night. My ex husband has only seen the girls a total of 92 hours since the divorce. and its been 5 years since the last time he was here to see them, he didn't call for 2 1/2 years. because he doen't have the time. He is the one who cheated, not me. so when I filed for divorcee he agreed to the terms 400.00 a month alimony.

[CourtClerk]

Dear OP,
You have to understand that your ex-husband's alimony has nothing to do with his visitation with his daughters. Visitation is a right that he has, he is in no way obligated to do so if he doesn't want to. Sad, but true. So if he only seen his daughters 92 hours since the divorce, that is 92 hours more than he is required to, and 92 hours more than some children have seen their non-custodial parents. You will get no sympathy from us for that one. We don't get into the emotion of the divorce because it's not important and legally it has no bearing on the situation. He's not required to call either. In fact, as long as he paid the child support he can drop off the face of the earth for all the courts care.

As far as you working graveyard shift. Good for you. You made the choice to work graveyard, as many of us have made the choice to work the day shift. As I have often said, you don't get brownie points for stuff you're supposed to do. If your ex-husband paid alimony for 11 years, then good for him, but I have to agree with the others when I said, it's time to stop the madness. No one needs 11 years of alimony and you are clearly able to support yourself. I would suggest that your ex-husband use that "further order of the court" option and let them know that you are well on your feet and you don't need the alimony anymore and the court should cut the final tie between you two.

Sincerely,
CC
on behalf of some of the Senior Members here

[Bali Hai]

Originally Posted by CourtClerk

Dear OP,
You have to understand that your ex-husband's alimony has nothing to do with his visitation with his daughters. Visitation is a right that he has, he is in no way obligated to do so if he doesn't want to. Sad, but true. So if he only seen his daughters 92 hours since the divorce, that is 92 hours more than he is required to, and 92 hours more than some children have seen their non-custodial parents. You will get no sympathy from us for that one. We don't get into the emotion of the divorce because it's not important and legally it has no bearing on the situation. He's not required to call either. In fact, as long as he paid the child support he can drop off the face of the earth for all the courts care.

As far as you working graveyard shift. Good for you. You made the choice to work graveyard, as many of us have made the choice to work the day shift. As I have often said, you don't get brownie points for stuff you're supposed to do. If your ex-husband paid alimony for 11 years, then good for him, but I have to agree with the others when I said, it's time to stop the madness. No one needs 11 years of alimony and you are clearly able to support yourself. I would suggest that your ex-husband use that "further order of the court" option and let them know that you are well on your feet and you don't need the alimony anymore and the court should cut the final tie between you two.

Sincerely,
CC
on behalf of some of the Senior Members here

You've got a free foot massage coming CC!!!