Husband sends money abroad without my concent.

[alena333]

Hi,

I live in Massachusetts state and have been married to my husband for the last 5 years. He adopted my daugter, who is 7 right now. I recently learned that he opened a separate bank account a while ago (in his name only) and since then transfers considerable amounts of money to his mom abroad without my concent through this bank account. It is nothing wrong about helping his family, but those amouts are not pennies and affect out budget.
What can I do to get control over him? Is there anything I can do to stop, or at least, to slow down this process?

Thank you!

[nextwife]

Deposit YOUR salary into a seperate account?

Have an seperate account in which both your salaries have a fixed amount transfered to cover the household budget each month?

[stealth2]

Here's a novel thought - have you asked him about it?

[alena333]

Of course, we had a talk about it. You see, the thing is - he makes more money then I do, so I don't really have a last word in that conversation. He sends money abroad every 1-2 months, and that's thousands of dollars - quite a lot for a third world country, to say the truth. I understand, he wants his parents to live in luxury, and that's nice, but we have a family too, and I'm just concerned that we can't afford some expences because of that...

[HomeGuru]

Oh brother. Have you ever heard of the saying "he can get another wife but not another Mom"?

[alena333]

Pleeese... I'm not competing with his mom - why bother... I just want to know if there anything legally a wife can do in this situation... When a "gift money" stop to be a gift and become "subsidising" , "investment" or something else? Are there any limits on a gift or not? Is he entitled to spend his money anyway he wants to?

Thanks for all the answers...;-)

[stealth2]

Pretty much, yes. As you are. Your choice if you don't like it and he won't stop? Divorce him.