What is the name of your state? Kansas
I am going through a divorce after more than 25 years of marriage. I have a very good male friend who has nowhere to stay. My kids don't like him (they are 27, 24 and 17) and are not living here, but he helps out a lot and always treats me respectfully. Our relationship is strictly platonic. He has been sleeping on the couch. On top of this the boys have been very rude and insist that they can come over any time day or night and make noise or whatever because it's still their house. On Tues (4/1) the oldest showed up at 10:30 when we were about to go to bed and wanted to do his laundry. My friend got mad at him for being inconsiderate and started yelling at him. (He has never gotten into any kind of confrontation with anyone in the family before, but he couldn't stand how I was being treated). My son yelled back that he had every right to be there and that my friend didn't. My friend left the room and I tried to reason with my so, saying that fine he could do his laundry this time, but that he had to show some consideration for me and for my friend who was sleeping on the couch. He started loudly insisting that he had his own schedule and couldn't be expected to work around anyone else's. My friend came back and said that does it and picked up the clothes and started to turn to take them out. My son suddenly yelled "Don't push my mom! and slugged him (I was not pushed as far as I am aware of), my friend fell and my son hit him in the face 2 more times while I screamed that he didn't push me and tried to pulll him away. Then he stopped and said he would get his clothes and leave. Then he tried to apologize, but my friend didn't think he sounded very sincere and he was in too much pain to listen. My son left. Then my other son called and yelled at me and said it had to be the other guy's fault and that they could come over whenever they wanted. Then my friend insisted on making a police report and after that we went to the hospital. Fortunately nothing was broken, but they said he would be in pain for awhile and gave him a prescription. Now my almost ex has cut off all mooney to me and everyone says I should make my friend drop the charges. I've asked but he thinks they'll just keep abusing their rights if he does. I feel very much in the middle and now have no money on top ot it. What are my rights and what should I expect from my kids? (I have a lawyer, but it's suppose to be a cooperative divorce, so she isn't suppose to be real agressive). Help, please.
I am going through a divorce after more than 25 years of marriage. I have a very good male friend who has nowhere to stay. My kids don't like him (they are 27, 24 and 17) and are not living here, but he helps out a lot and always treats me respectfully. Our relationship is strictly platonic. He has been sleeping on the couch. On top of this the boys have been very rude and insist that they can come over any time day or night and make noise or whatever because it's still their house. On Tues (4/1) the oldest showed up at 10:30 when we were about to go to bed and wanted to do his laundry. My friend got mad at him for being inconsiderate and started yelling at him. (He has never gotten into any kind of confrontation with anyone in the family before, but he couldn't stand how I was being treated). My son yelled back that he had every right to be there and that my friend didn't. My friend left the room and I tried to reason with my so, saying that fine he could do his laundry this time, but that he had to show some consideration for me and for my friend who was sleeping on the couch. He started loudly insisting that he had his own schedule and couldn't be expected to work around anyone else's. My friend came back and said that does it and picked up the clothes and started to turn to take them out. My son suddenly yelled "Don't push my mom! and slugged him (I was not pushed as far as I am aware of), my friend fell and my son hit him in the face 2 more times while I screamed that he didn't push me and tried to pulll him away. Then he stopped and said he would get his clothes and leave. Then he tried to apologize, but my friend didn't think he sounded very sincere and he was in too much pain to listen. My son left. Then my other son called and yelled at me and said it had to be the other guy's fault and that they could come over whenever they wanted. Then my friend insisted on making a police report and after that we went to the hospital. Fortunately nothing was broken, but they said he would be in pain for awhile and gave him a prescription. Now my almost ex has cut off all mooney to me and everyone says I should make my friend drop the charges. I've asked but he thinks they'll just keep abusing their rights if he does. I feel very much in the middle and now have no money on top ot it. What are my rights and what should I expect from my kids? (I have a lawyer, but it's suppose to be a cooperative divorce, so she isn't suppose to be real agressive). Help, please.